I read it now.
It's a good article.
However is it not arguing the opposite to what you have been saying? The conclusion seems to be that the European liberal dream of harmony among nations is not shared by Putin (and not just Putin) who lives in a world of ruthless realpolitik. The solution John Gray advocates is to abandon that dream and start rearming and showing strength to counter Putin.
You seem to have been saying the opposite, suggesting that if we give Putin everything he wants and don't do anything to prevent his goals then we will have peace. And this is a result of NATO being aggressive. Gray is basically calling for NATO to take a harder line.
My own opinion, is that Gray is right that the 90s fantasies about globalisation were naive, because trade and commerce in itself does not bring peace and democracy automatically as many starry eyed liberals once assumed - China is also instructive here.
However, it is true that the EU has had unprecedented peace. I think the lesson here is that supra-national political and legal integration can render geopolitical squabbles less important, but the market and mutual trade in themselves do not prevent war or conflict, nor do they bring democracy. If anything, globalisation from the 90s onwards has weakened democratic structures by reducing the power of elected governments to shape their society and weakening the negotiating power of labour.
Russia's descent into something similar to a Saudi Arabia style petro-state, with Putin and the oligarchs taking the place of the House of Saud, is itself a consequence of globalisation. Russia manufactures almost nothing, partly because any local industry would get undercut by products made in China or elsewhere.
I don't think there are any easy answers to this.