JudithB
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Don't you wish to change their behaviours too?The men whose behaviour you wish to change aren't imo likely to go, the men who would go probably already have to varying extents the views you wish espoused....
Don't you wish to change their behaviours too?The men whose behaviour you wish to change aren't imo likely to go, the men who would go probably already have to varying extents the views you wish espoused....
Isn't there a thread on here about toxic masculinity? I didn't venture in there.Kind of a group therapy thread...?
Isn't there a thread on here about toxic masculinity? I didn't venture in there.
No, I want them to change their behaviourDon't you wish to change their behaviours too?
I was in a very crowded workplace social club very near Whitehall one evening last week and 2 men in their 60s were watching videos of very busty naked women jiggling their tits. Three of us could see it from the adjacent table. On the way out I told them that they were behaving in poor taste amongst colleagues and received only shrugs and 'you're making it up' responses. All the other men at their table ignored the exchange. I may as well have been mute.
And lolz like this are exactly the problem and why we aren’t listened to.You work in the Houses of Parliament?
This is one of many corrosive parts of silencing behaviour. Minimising bantz.And lolz like this are exactly the problem and why we aren’t listened to.
Fairly sure he's completely torpedoed his own leadership run with this interview, so there's that at least.This from a Labour Party leadership candidate. Ugh and aargh. So much gaslighting in one paragraph. And the reason I put it here is because it’s the old (right wing) trope never being alone with a woman one because, y’know, you can’t trust them. Which effectively shuts women out and shuts them up
This is one of many corrosive parts of silencing behaviour. Minimising bantz.
I had been comparing this incident with a similar one where a fellow was watching porn on his phone on a crowded bus. I did not challenge him. This continues to bother me. The social club incident brought it to the surface again.
As I have said before, the effects of these situations are compounded when later we start feeling inadequate because we saved mental and physical energy by having to act with fake pleasantness and unassertiveness.
When considering how and when to challenge shitty behaviour by men towards women we are too often caught between real fear of aggressive response, tedious corrosive mocking, and self-recrimination.
Damned if you do, damned if you don't.
I hope so. A Facebook group I am in is full of good lefty bros well-actually-ing. Accusations from women ruin men’s lives, it is often one person’s word against another’s etcFairly sure he's completely torpedoed his own leadership run with this interview, so there's that at least.
this post has it all.I was actually just interested to know whether this was public or private sector etc. or generally what kind of workplace because it’s a pretty depressing thing, but might be much more so depending on context, who these old guys were etc.
But anyway, thread is now on ignore so that’s one bit of being silenced by your oppressors sorted.
And yet rape is pretty much decriminalised. So many lives ruinedI hope so. A Facebook group I am in is full of good lefty bros well-actually-ing. Accusations from women ruin men’s lives, it is often one person’s word against another’s etc
I think enough people will find it repellant, not least the 50% or so of the membership who're women. TBH he was never in with much of a chance anyway, but this nails it down.I hope so. A Facebook group I am in is full of good lefty bros well-actually-ing. Accusations from women ruin men’s lives, it is often one person’s word against another’s etc
Might want to edit that post campanula in terms of maintaining anonymity. It's a bit specific...
OK, done (I think).
I remember the way tabloids were full of rape/assault stories next to pics and stories of 'sexy' young women in 70s/80s. Women's names, where they were from, and their ages always appeared in news about rape until the law changed to prevent it in the late 70s. I remember clearly the Sun having rape stories on Page 3, as it made me so angry. I studied newpapers in the early 80s and wrote a thesis about the sexualising of images of women in mass media.I’m not sure if this is apocryphal- can someone verify? I remember being told that the Sport/Sunday Sport used to publish details of rape and sexual assault cases as little bite-sized filler around their page three photos.
According to some reports, her name was actually the most searched term on PornHub on her birthday. indy100 has been unable to confirm this, but if it's true it is truly disturbing.
So the recent display of misogyny on the Gwyneth Paltrow thread has effectively silenced me.