friendofdorothy
Solidarity against neoliberalism!
I would bother unless you want to be bored or annoyed. It's not like he has anything useful or insightful to say.Am going unignore Pickman's for this thread.
I would bother unless you want to be bored or annoyed. It's not like he has anything useful or insightful to say.Am going unignore Pickman's for this thread.
so this makes you a bit sick.
Mildly nauseous but mostly a bit turned on.
I mean, seriously. Wtf.
Tbh I thought when I said it was vile, when I said it plumbed new depths of human degradation I thought that indicated at the very least disgust with the crime and its perpetrators. Maybe in retrospect I should have used different language. But you can fuck right off if you think you can suggest I have anything but the greatest contempt for anyone who looks online for a film of this or who watches it to get their jollies - I've not given you any grounds to think thatso you feel comfortable using non gendered 'human' here? so is the depth degradation you speak of of the whole human race, men and women equally sharing these depths? Is this some linguistic picky point scoring?
Even now you can't you bring yourself to speak out against the men who comitted this crime, and the men (and lets not pretend it isn't overwhelmingly men this porn site is aimed at) who compound this vile crime by using it to wank over.
or are we back to not-all-men-etc? No its not all men, just 35,000 of them a second.
Pickyman is this how you show your solidary with abused women? is this how you bear witness and speak up for silenced women? You disgust me. Please don't reply with glib word play just FUCK OFF THIS THREAD.
I'm glad you are trying, but I am surprised you did not see it before.I'm not going to pretend to know how it would feel seeing that as a woman, but as a bloke it's one of those things where it's just like at that second of seeing something, the world became a darker and shitter and more shifty and untrustworthy place.
It wasn't starting from the best baseline, either.
Your language has given me every reason to think you don't think much about the abused and murdered women being discussed much. Femicide is the ultimate silencing.Maybe in retrospect I should have used different language.
Tbh I thought when I said it was vile, when I said it plumbed new depths of human degradation I thought that indicated at the very least disgust with the crime and its perpetrators. Maybe in retrospect I should have used different language. But you can fuck right off if you think you can suggest I have anything but the greatest contempt for anyone who looks online for a film of this or who watches it to get their jollies - I've not given you any grounds to think that
yes I was thinking about this by reading news / media its easy to get an impression it works equally both ways. A murderous woman equals big news, where as men murdering women is so everday is it not always news. Same with sexually motivated violence. I recall hearing stats on this a while back but dont know where to look for them- found this https://www.ons.gov.uk/peoplepopulationandcommunity/crimeandjustice/articles/homicide but I cant take in the number/trends etc.Thing is, it does tend to be the elephant in the room, doesn't it, the fact that most violent crimes are committed by men. Fingers are pointed at all sorts of other demographics in different circumstances but considering how much we should be talking about men doing the murdering and raping, it's pretty much not mentioned. The press talks about grooming gangs, and people preying on drunk women, and date rape is a problem. But no one ever comes out and says what these situations have in common and actually addresses the fucking problem.
If any male poster says not all.... or what about... I'll fucking scream.As in previous years, women were far more likely than men to be killed by partners or ex-partners (33% of female victims compared with 1% of male victims), and men were more likely than women to be killed by friends or acquaintances (25% of male victims compared with 7% of female victims).
If any male poster says not all.... or what about... I'll fucking scream.
imo that's really rather a reach and if that's what some people think I'm not sure how they've arrived at that position. Obviously it was a crime committed by men. I've not denied that or sought to make light of it.Nobody is suggesting you're supporting or excusing what's happened. The issue is you, a male, appearing keen not to accept this is a crime committed by males.
Nah, don't even joke about that.
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Saying all men are culpable for the crimes of all men is equivalent to saying all women are culpable for the crimes of all women. Is my DNA or Y chromosome a marker of hatred now? In other contexts we tend to find that kind of talk pretty suspect.
Unless and until we can name the problem - male violence - we cannot find the solution.
And despite @friendofdorothy’s heartfelt pleas, the ‘not all men’ posts have immediately followed.
God I’m disappointed in this place sometimes.
No and I didn’t say all men. But somehow, that’s what ElizabethofYork read into what I wrote
No, you didn't. But you complained about people saying "Not all men".
Anyway, this is all semantics and diverting away from an important conversation.
Also, when it was said that this is a “new low for humanity” (not going to quote the post, it’s already been contentious) please be aware that this is not “new” at all. It’s a hideous frightening crime, but it’s far from new.
Someone else said (again, I’m not going to quote) - or seemed to be saying - that the world now feels a little sicker and nasty than it was before they’d learned of this particular story. I have to say that the potential for this level of despicable danger doesn’t feel like a new understanding to me.
This is not new. Nor is it a deeper depth.
The rape being uploaded to a porn site and becoming very popular is fairly new, mainly because that technology wasn't as widespread until relatively recently. I do find it a bit depressing tbh.
and it's just a waste of energy and time, generally of less privileged groups having to bloody do it. As one feminist I follow on Twitter quite often discusses, she also does a lot of work on men's mental health and she has never, ever had a woman say 'But what about women's mental health', whereas every time she writes about her other specialism, the victim-blaming of women, it's reams and reams of 'what about male victims of abuse' as though no one's allowed to talk about one thing without talking about another."Not all men" is annoying, not because we are accusing all men, it's annoying because we're not accusing all men and still some people feel the need to act as if we are.