mentalchik
"I say we take off and nuke the site from orbit."
This isn’t violence but it is a window into life as a woman. I was on a not very busy train coming home today, working. No one sat next to me as we left London (and very few people board the train later on - it’s mostly people getting off) so I was working on my laptop, referring to notes on my tablet on the table next to me. My bag was also on the seat next to me. I hadn’t noticed we’d stopped because I was engrossed in what I was doing until suddenly a man put his bag down heavily on top of my tablet screen. He didn’t speak to me so I suggested he could have asked me to move my bag/tablet which I would have been happy to have done. He told me seats were for sitting on and then continued to be aggressive. He spread his legs really wide and leaned into my space, told me I was too fat for the seat, and asked me if I were having a bad day when I ignored him. All because I was a woman working on a train.
When we got to the next stop and the train emptied, he didn’t move. So I pretended I was getting off so that I didn’t have to spend the next 25 minutes of my nearly 2 hour commute absorbing his hate for me.
For every bloke who says “oh there must be a reason this man murdered women! He must have some terrible psychological trauma or be horribly mentally ill’, there is another man who spends his lives making random women’s lives miserable because he just hates us.
I work in a supermarket (smaller than a superstore)....the amount of 'casual' sexism/aggression is almost a daily occurence....i head the services dept (all the tills, self scans. customer services/kiosk)we are all women of various ages....sexual comments on colleagues bodies, overt leering, agressive name calling (have lost count of how many times i have been called a "fucking bitch" for instance), bullying of their partners(making you scared for the women involved wondering what happens to them when not in public), this goes on all the time.....watched a group of three men come all the way from the back of the store to ogle a woman (regular customer,usually in fitness gear). Once helped a woman find a place of safety after she ran into the store in her nightie and bare feet with a large man chasing her....everyone just stared until i started shouting for help and we got her sorted out with a taxi to her sisters( it has always stayed in my memory)...have a couple of times intervened when men were harrassing colleagues and wouldn't take "no they are not interested" for an answer....some members of certain local immigrant communities are very overt in their sexual interest, women even get touched.....it goes on and on and i truely hoped things would have got better since my youth but imo it's getting worse.