Not just women who may have 'public vouces'. The links I gave don't have a comprehensive list, just a bit of context. Other posts on this thread also give examples and context. Silencing and not being heard are very big and interlinked topics.
As in all these threads, the workplace is an obvious context for silencing. So obvious it's uncontrovertible aside from some whataboutery. I wonder if it's why most men seem happiest confining their posts on these threads to workplace issues.
Agreed. It's relentless.
And when he's not being a dick he's okay. Yes I do know what I just wrote.
When I have used specific examples, they have also told me that that could happen to anyone, not just women, it wasn't 'just' sexist, that I was being too sensitive, seeing things that aren't there, and that old chestnut, not having a sense of humour.
As in all these threads, the workplace is an obvious context for silencing. So obvious it's uncontrovertible aside from some whataboutery. I wonder if it's why most men seem happiest confining their posts on these threads to workplace issues.
I am interested in the the less obvious situations and patterns that I probably haven't thought about enough.
Not intending to shut folk up about silencing in the workplace but keen to understand it elsewhere. I suspect it is related to 'a world designed for men' which broadly seems more about being 'invisiblised'/unseen than silenced/unheard. Don't know if that's a useful distinction or splitting hairs.
I have a cross stitch picture above my dressing table that says feminist killjoy for just this reasonThe amount of times men (of all ages) have told me that I am wrong, and there is no such thing as sexism 'anymore'
The amount of times men (of all ages) have told me that I am wrong, and there is no such thing as sexism 'anymore'
My gut reaction was to say you can't really know what goes on behind closed doors. Then I realised that closed doors are literally a silencing technique used against women.
No, you can't, but you can have a pretty good idea depending on how well you know people I would say.
You never really know what goes on in other people's relationships. And, for various reasons, some women will collude in pretending things are well balanced, even when they aren't.
Ha! Same here - I drive, my husband doesn't! And my colleagues find this endlessly fascinating and buying a car is, er, interesting.
I promise you that you probably wouldn’t know. Out of all the abusive men I’ve known, only one of them was an outwardly aggressive ‘alpha’ male type. Actually, I can handle them much better because they’re more of a known quantity. My ex was like that, violent and aggressive with every one so I didn’t need to convince anyone what a pig he was.
I don’t think it’s about alphas or twats or abuse. Most women do the emotional labour in a relationship, and take the ‘caring’ role. That includes being an emotional sounding board, absorbing emotion, especially a male partner’s emotion: etc etc etc. My partner is in no way abusive, or a twat, or an ‘alpha’- but I often don’t bother to share emotional stuff I need to think through, or play it down. That’s a deep seated patriarchal assumption that he takes up more emotional space than I do. I remember birthdays, favourite foods, deal with everyone’s emotions, and keep my own needs silent. That’s not, I suspect, unusual.
Although tbf, that's added on overtly too for effect quite a lot 
