Sea Star
have you ever explored your dark side?
why does everyone think it's about being offended. People aren;t offended. It's just no longer relevant for most of us.I don't really view ladies and gentleman as some evil patriarchal thing though. I really don't see what's so offensive about being addressed as a gentleman or a lady, I have very, very rarely encountered anyone in my life who is genuinely offended being called a lady or a gentleman. Granted it's old fashioned but offensive? Sign of the times though I guess.
You've thrown too many acronyms at me now to fully understand who's for or against. In fact you've thrown so many you've repeated yourself haven't you? Isn't the T in LGBT meant to stand for trans? You said LGBT and trans people, anyway I thought it was LGBTQ now? I saw a particularly long version of it the other day, god knows what it all means. I do wonder if the people you've spoken to have said they're all for it in front of you because you've transitioned, whereas in other company they either shrug their shoulders, roll their eyes a bit or both? Not saying that to be a dick I'm just wondering.
I do generally fall into the category of don't really care but I do find myself eyerolling a bit sometimes at all this. I just wonder where it all leads. Just saying hello person strikes me as dull and homogenous. I quite like it when a woman calls me luv, sweetheart, darling etc. I don't really do it back much but sometimes, part n parcel of where I work really. I think the whole just doing it subtly is the way forward because it would hardly have been noticed by most people.
The way this sort of language works is that it acts subconsciously and insidiously. Whether you see it as associated with patriarchy is irrelevent, lot's of people do.
My Twitter timeline is still working overtime - so far about 500 interactions with my Tweet about this. Only two women objected and neither was directly about the announcements, both were sly attacks on my gender identity, and all the negative comments about my Tweet have been men, very much men and very much identifying as men, cis, & straight.
You'd think that something like this wouldn't matter but from the reactions I'm getting it very much does matter - to nearly everyone.
When I used LGBT I meant the LGBT movement which is largely run by cis people, not trans people. I could have said LGB or LGB+ it doesn't really matter. But when I say LGBT+ I'm basically talking about what used to be called the gay community but now, ostensibly represents all the other identities.
eta - i just noticed i wrote "quite a few in LGBT+ other than trans people" in order to make it clear there.
I'll assume you weren't trying to be a dick but only because you said so. I find people don't hold back in telling me what they think about trans, especially online, and not often to my face; but no it was way more nuanced than that. I do work in offices which is getting on for 50% female (out in operational areas where the gender balance is tilted more towards 95% men then it might be a different story - but even there you would get a mixed view, and plenty of men on the operational side support this. Union people often support this because they speak to their female colleagues about feminism from time to time - and we have a male allies group too) and I can hear conversations I'm not involved with, not everyone knows I'm trans, on twitter people are very honest indeed with what they think whether they know I'm trans or not. This is not about trans people. This is being driven by the women's staff network way stronger than it is being driven by the LGBT staff network (barely representative of trans people btw).
people saying "luv, sweetheart, darling" is nothing to do with this. Not sure why you mention it. TfL aren't trying to stop people being friendly.
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