It's fair to say that Russia has a history that's been wary of the west since at least pre-WW2 and that Putin is a product of the USSR and it's wish to keep a good chunk of distance between Moscow and hostile countries. That's a given.
But Putin has at the same time acted in a way that's done little but spread tension and corruption in both his country and the wider world. He can't want Russia to be secure and make the world less secure and not expect to be never fully embraced. Tonty Blair and others have been willing to take his money but there's more to the act of good relations than that. Putin's still frozen in the idea that the world works like the mid nineties and has broken his agreements and lied over and over again.
And the world's allowed it until now, it shouldn't have but it has. Sooner or later things hit the limit and Ukraine and it's resistance is it. Ukraine has it's issues and Zelensky isn't a saint but they clearly adapted and done so rapidly since decoupling from Putin's orbit post 2014. Russia... Hasn't, it's still stacking wealth in the pockets of a fraction of it's population and not even bothering to look after it's population.
I think one of the saddest elements of all this is that Russia had options. It no doubt would've had a difficult 1990's in any timeline, although there would've been cultural undercurrents from those difficulties that could've subsequently flourished as the political fallout of the Soviet collapse began to settle, so even that could've become a positive.
They had so much human capital, such an educated population, a world famous megacity that was a hub for the half of the world the west didn't know - Cuba, parts of Africa, the modern Middle East - it could've continued to be, but instead it embarked on this white nationalist cul de sac that's reduced it to this unenviable nightmare.
It had its own very substantial diaspora in the United States and in Israel, and in the other Soviet republics, and to a lesser extent in parts of Europe. Google itself is the work of a Russian Jew. So many of these people could've been able ambassadors for a new Russia that wanted to move onwards and upwards from its past.
It has every kind of resource that any other society could monetize, and as it was starting from a very different kind of set up to the western economies, it could've built on them in a creative way. Instead, it's just this kleptocratic mess, hated, feared and despised by its neighbours, and with enclaves like Chechnya that were/are brutalized.
Chemical weapons have been unleashed on the streets of western democracies, there are credible reports that the Moscow apartment bombings were the work of Putinites, gay men are persecuted, an unholy alliance with the revived Russian Orthodox Church and the American Christian Right has spawned all kinds of tangled horrors.
Their citizens are lucky to live through their 60's, and even luckier to get to 60 in anything approaching good health. Addiction, HIV infection, TB - it's all off the charts. Now they're being conscripted by the gangster that's been robbing them blind for decades. It's so sad, and it could've all been so different for Russia - and for everyone else.