It's not that though. It is 20ish years of Labour deliberately not talking to 'traditional working class' people, instead courting the middle/centre-right ground who swing elections.
Then Milliband comes out with what do you think when you see a white van outside a house, he says "respect". Which just sounds fucking weird.
It is the ability to sit in a room full of Ukip voters and maybe win them over, at least charm them, at least some of them. Labour won't even come in the room, it can't even open the door, it can't even hold the door handle its hands are so greased with sleaze and power, it can't (insert door/handle analogy here)...