a thing that i, at least, accept completely. i believe every account above from a woman poster about her interactions with their guys. but, again, men have no monopoly on this. my marriage crashed exactly because my wife simply could not engage in emotional talk. my every attempt to initiate difficult but necessary discussion was met with screaming finger pointing or dredging up ancient disputes in an attempt to sidetrack. only after she left did she admit what i had been concerned about, and I'm quoting here, "you can't know how much I drank and spent."
guess what? I'm one of, oh, maybe a billion men in the same position. the adjective to describe that is "systemic."
a book that helped me was
Stop Walking on Eggshells.
worth a look from others, from the sound of what i read above.