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Feminism- experiences of man-whispering and the refusal to do so...

8ball said:
Or that on one occasion you just ran out of that physical and mental energy.
I *think* most of the women’s stories here are coming from posters around my age group. Ish.
I really hope in 20 years we don’t have another cohort recounting a batch of similar stories. :(
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We will. My nieces and goddaughters tell me awful dreadful stuff.
 
trashpony said:
That's a very good tip. If I had done that, I wouldn't have been raped the last time I was. It was just too easy for him to push my knickers to one side (and I'm sure I wasn't the first woman he raped and I bet I wasn't the last either). Makes me feel sick though - like telling women not to go out when the Yorkshire Ripper was on the loose rather than telling men to stay in
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A mate of mine would travel to and fro everywhere wearing jeans and get changed when she arrived and then back into the jeans before going home. Pack the jeans in a tight little roll so they fit in her bag.
 
SheilaNaGig said:
A mate of mine would travel to and fro everywhere wearing jeans and get changed when she arrived and then back into the jeans before going home. Pack the jeans in a tight little roll so they fit in her bag.
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Ha! I used to do that too. It was a good trick. Then I fucked off the "nice clothes" (for men) altogether and just went out in jeans. And 8f they had a dress code? You don't get my money or I just never showed up. An all round better experience. Fuck dress codes. They are only there to make women uncomfortable.
 
Manter said:
I’ve been attacked (Both sexually and hit) by men I don’t know. But never by a man that was a friend or partner, or I would have to see again.
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I was seeing a fella, it all went south. Broke up with him, he pursued me into an alley, backed me into a derelict doorway. Trapped. I stared him down. Terrified. Heart rolling like the sea inside me. He went to rip my clothes open, I put my back against the door and got my claws out. Thought "Not his face, I'll blind him" so dropped to his neck and shoulders, raked him bloody with my fingernails. He took my hand and bit me to the bone. I stared at him, just stared and stared as the sweat broke out for the pain. He had his knees and thighs pressed against me so I had to creep up backwards with my heels up on the door behind me. I knew I had to hold on or he'd have me. He blinked first. Thank God. I ran. I ran to the next street and found people. He stalked me after that. Found out later I was "the only girlfriend be never battered". Such an honour...
 
Athos said:
I'd have smacked him. Or at least I would have until recently, having learned from people on here that thay migh not be the best thing for the woman. Now, I'm not sure. Hate to say it, but I'd probably still have smacked him.
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It doesn't help.

Who do you think cops it when he's recovered from the shock? How does he rebuild his sense of power, d'you reckon?
 
SheilaNaGig said:
I was seeing a fella, it all went south. Broke up with him, he pursued me into an alley, backed me into a derelict doorway. Trapped. I stared him down. Terrified. Heart rolling like the sea inside me. He went to rip my clothes open, I put my back against the door and got my claws out. Thought "Not his face, I'll blind him" so dropped to his neck and shoulders, raked him bloody with my fingernails. He took my hand and bit me to the bone. I stared at him, just stared and stared as the sweat broke out for the pain. He had his knees and thighs pressed against me so I had to creep up backwards with my heels up on the door behind me. I knew I had to hold on or he'd have me. He blinked first. Thank God. I ran. I ran to the next street and found people. He stalked me after that. Found out later I was "the only girlfriend be never battered". Such an honour...
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Oh Sheila I am sorry to read this. Have you reported him to the police? Do you have burly friends who could evict him and allow you time to change the locks?

You may not be ready for solutions yet. But we are all here when you are.

Courage mon brave
 
8ball said:
Or that on one occasion you just ran out of that physical and mental energy.
I *think* most of the women’s stories here are coming from posters around my age group. Ish.
I really hope in 20 years we don’t have another cohort recounting a batch of similar stories. :(
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Nope, no, read the tiny collection of stories about women from teens to late middle age on this thread, and guess again.

Please try not to minimise this as a set of unusual circumstances.
 
From my own experience, I have a fifteen year old daughter, and some of the stuff she's had directed at her (and her female friends) by boys at school would make your hair curl.
 
JudithB said:
Oh Sheila I am sorry to read this. Have you reported him to the police? Do you have burly friends who could evict him and allow you time to change the locks?

You may not be ready for solutions yet. But we are all here when you are.

Courage mon brave
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Thank you. But this story was from years and years ago!

The stuff I'm currently struggling with is far more insidious and nasty. The law can't help, I've tried that.

I can't say more in a public forum.
 
SheilaNaGig said:
Thank you. But this story was from years and years ago!

The stuff I'm currently struggling with is far more insidious and nasty. The law can't help, I've tried that.

I can't say more in a public forum.
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Appreciated and respected. If you ever need some contacts who might be able to help feel free to dm me
 
Does anyone know what the law says about him locking the door against me without an injunction or occupation order? Can I ask the police to help me gain access?
 
SheilaNaGig said:
Does anyone know what the law says about him locking the door against me without an injunction or occupation order? Can I ask the police to help me gain access?
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How do you feel about reporting the physical abuse at the same time? Won’t the police have a record of your complaint from the last time?

Sounds like it’s the end game and he is getting desperate. I’m concerned for your safety.
 
Winot said:
Cannot be legal if you are co-owner. I would call the police.

Athos
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No, it's not legal. I'd call the police, explain what's happened (and the long history) and them to attend the property as you reenter, to guarantee your safety. They might try to fob you off with the idea that it's a civil matter, so you'd have to really stress the real risk if significant physical harm, and escalate it to someone more serious/ ask for a DV specialist if they don't take or seriously. That's what I'd do, from a lethal perspective, but I suspect purenarcotic is the best person to offer practical advice on this.
 
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