Feminism- experiences of man-whispering and the refusal to do so...

[FabricLiveBaby!]

Or that on one occasion you just ran out of that physical and mental energy.
I *think* most of the women’s stories here are coming from posters around my age group. Ish.
I really hope in 20 years we don’t have another cohort recounting a batch of similar stories.

I reckon it'll be worse.

 

[Baronage-Phase]

I reckon it'll be worse.

I think you are right.

 

[SheilaNaGig]

Or that on one occasion you just ran out of that physical and mental energy.
I *think* most of the women’s stories here are coming from posters around my age group. Ish.
I really hope in 20 years we don’t have another cohort recounting a batch of similar stories.

We will. My nieces and goddaughters tell me awful dreadful stuff.

 

[SheilaNaGig]

That's a very good tip. If I had done that, I wouldn't have been raped the last time I was. It was just too easy for him to push my knickers to one side (and I'm sure I wasn't the first woman he raped and I bet I wasn't the last either). Makes me feel sick though - like telling women not to go out when the Yorkshire Ripper was on the loose rather than telling men to stay in

A mate of mine would travel to and fro everywhere wearing jeans and get changed when she arrived and then back into the jeans before going home. Pack the jeans in a tight little roll so they fit in her bag.

 

[trashpony]

Are you safe SheilaNaGig?

 

[FabricLiveBaby!]

A mate of mine would travel to and fro everywhere wearing jeans and get changed when she arrived and then back into the jeans before going home. Pack the jeans in a tight little roll so they fit in her bag.

Ha! I used to do that too. It was a good trick. Then I fucked off the "nice clothes" (for men) altogether and just went out in jeans. And 8f they had a dress code? You don't get my money or I just never showed up. An all round better experience. Fuck dress codes. They are only there to make women uncomfortable.

 

[SheilaNaGig]

I’ve been attacked (Both sexually and hit) by men I don’t know. But never by a man that was a friend or partner, or I would have to see again.

I was seeing a fella, it all went south. Broke up with him, he pursued me into an alley, backed me into a derelict doorway. Trapped. I stared him down. Terrified. Heart rolling like the sea inside me. He went to rip my clothes open, I put my back against the door and got my claws out. Thought "Not his face, I'll blind him" so dropped to his neck and shoulders, raked him bloody with my fingernails. He took my hand and bit me to the bone. I stared at him, just stared and stared as the sweat broke out for the pain. He had his knees and thighs pressed against me so I had to creep up backwards with my heels up on the door behind me. I knew I had to hold on or he'd have me. He blinked first. Thank God. I ran. I ran to the next street and found people. He stalked me after that. Found out later I was "the only girlfriend be never battered". Such an honour...

 

[SheilaNaGig]

Are you safe SheilaNaGig?

Yes.
X

 

[SheilaNaGig]

I'd have smacked him. Or at least I would have until recently, having learned from people on here that thay migh not be the best thing for the woman. Now, I'm not sure. Hate to say it, but I'd probably still have smacked him.

It doesn't help.

Who do you think cops it when he's recovered from the shock? How does he rebuild his sense of power, d'you reckon?

 

[SheilaNaGig]

Yes.
X

I'm physically safe. Staying with friends. But I think this has broken me. He's thrown me out the house. My house. The house I'm selling so I can be free of him.

 

[JudithB]

I was seeing a fella, it all went south. Broke up with him, he pursued me into an alley, backed me into a derelict doorway. Trapped. I stared him down. Terrified. Heart rolling like the sea inside me. He went to rip my clothes open, I put my back against the door and got my claws out. Thought "Not his face, I'll blind him" so dropped to his neck and shoulders, raked him bloody with my fingernails. He took my hand and bit me to the bone. I stared at him, just stared and stared as the sweat broke out for the pain. He had his knees and thighs pressed against me so I had to creep up backwards with my heels up on the door behind me. I knew I had to hold on or he'd have me. He blinked first. Thank God. I ran. I ran to the next street and found people. He stalked me after that. Found out later I was "the only girlfriend be never battered". Such an honour...

Oh Sheila I am sorry to read this. Have you reported him to the police? Do you have burly friends who could evict him and allow you time to change the locks?

You may not be ready for solutions yet. But we are all here when you are.

Courage mon brave

 

[weepiper]

SheilaNaGig I'm so sorry to read this. I hope you have good people around you who can help xx

 

[Mrs Miggins]

I'm physically safe. Staying with friends. But I think this has broken me. He's thrown me out the house. My house. The house I'm selling so I can be free of him.

This is still going on? Oh Sheila I'm so sorry.

 

[mango5]

Or that on one occasion you just ran out of that physical and mental energy.
I *think* most of the women’s stories here are coming from posters around my age group. Ish.
I really hope in 20 years we don’t have another cohort recounting a batch of similar stories.

Nope, no, read the tiny collection of stories about women from teens to late middle age on this thread, and guess again.

Please try not to minimise this as a set of unusual circumstances.

 

[weepiper]

Or that on one occasion you just ran out of that physical and mental energy.
I *think* most of the women’s stories here are coming from posters around my age group. Ish.
I really hope in 20 years we don’t have another cohort recounting a batch of similar stories.

I'm afraid you're kidding yourself.

Girl catcalled when she was 11 launches bid to make it illegal | Metro News

 

[weepiper]

From my own experience, I have a fifteen year old daughter, and some of the stuff she's had directed at her (and her female friends) by boys at school would make your hair curl.

 

[Glitter]

Or that on one occasion you just ran out of that physical and mental energy.
I *think* most of the women’s stories here are coming from posters around my age group. Ish.
I really hope in 20 years we don’t have another cohort recounting a batch of similar stories.

I bet you twenty million pounds that we do.

 

[Athos]

It doesn't help.

Who do you think cops it when he's recovered from the shock? How does he rebuild his sense of power, d'you reckon?

I know, which is why I hope I'd do the right thing.

 

[SheilaNaGig]

Oh Sheila I am sorry to read this. Have you reported him to the police? Do you have burly friends who could evict him and allow you time to change the locks?

You may not be ready for solutions yet. But we are all here when you are.

Courage mon brave

Thank you. But this story was from years and years ago!

The stuff I'm currently struggling with is far more insidious and nasty. The law can't help, I've tried that.

I can't say more in a public forum.

 

[SheilaNaGig]

This is still going on? Oh Sheila I'm so sorry.

It's coming to an end at last. But it's very very very unpleasant.

 

[JudithB]

Thank you. But this story was from years and years ago!

The stuff I'm currently struggling with is far more insidious and nasty. The law can't help, I've tried that.

I can't say more in a public forum.

Appreciated and respected. If you ever need some contacts who might be able to help feel free to dm me

 

[Mrs Miggins]

It's coming to an end at last. But it's very very very unpleasant.

I hope it comes to an end soon x

 

[purenarcotic]

Huge hugs Sheila. I’m so sorry. Xx

 

[SheilaNaGig]

Does anyone know what the law says about him locking the door against me without an injunction or occupation order? Can I ask the police to help me gain access?

 

[purenarcotic]

Yes. If there’s no order in place and you’re on the deeds etc then you have the right to enter.

 

[Winot]

Does anyone know what the law says about him locking the door against me without an injunction or occupation order? Can I ask the police to help me gain access?

Cannot be legal if you are co-owner. I would call the police.

Athos

 

[Winot]

Does anyone know what the law says about him locking the door against me without an injunction or occupation order? Can I ask the police to help me gain access?

How do you feel about reporting the physical abuse at the same time? Won’t the police have a record of your complaint from the last time?

Sounds like it’s the end game and he is getting desperate. I’m concerned for your safety.

 

[SheilaNaGig]

Thanks, that's as I thought.

I can't say more. This is public.

 

[SheilaNaGig]

I might take this to my old thread, the first one. Might round it off nicely...

 

[Athos]

Cannot be legal if you are co-owner. I would call the police.

Athos

No, it's not legal. I'd call the police, explain what's happened (and the long history) and them to attend the property as you reenter, to guarantee your safety. They might try to fob you off with the idea that it's a civil matter, so you'd have to really stress the real risk if significant physical harm, and escalate it to someone more serious/ ask for a DV specialist if they don't take or seriously. That's what I'd do, from a lethal perspective, but I suspect purenarcotic is the best person to offer practical advice on this.