I was just reading here, with interest, anger, shame and various other feelings on behalf of all of us who may well have indulged in behaviour that inspires these kinds of fear and defensiveness. I will go back to reading quietly, too, but on this subtopic I have something to add.
There were a few years around the millennium when because (I believe) of my shape/face, and the places I was spending time, and the people I was with and what I was doing, I was getting regularly propositioned by both men and women. I didn't like it, at all, and it had nothing to do with looks (maybe to do with drunken ugliness, a whole other kind of ugliness). It was to do with invading my space, unwanted touching, and the entitlement of someone who just doesn't understand why you would say 'no'.
Most men I've told this to laugh and call me mental. Which leaves me speechless. I no longer share this experience because the response I get bothers me too much. But here it seems relevant because I believe I do understand a little of what women seem to have to put up with. Shall I tag
Saul Goodman ? Yeah why not.
Anyway that's all. Me reading again now.
EtA, forget the edit.
EtAA, no. Let's have it.
I hope this post doesn't mean points get taken more seriously by anyone reading because
oh look a man agrees so it must be true. That would be shit, really shit. But shamefully, it does work that way with some men
I do agree with what's being expressed by women in this thread, because what's being expressed is true. My own experience bears it out, is all I'm saying.
Fucking hell anyway.