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Oh, and 20 years later, another luteal cyst appeared.. That too, hurt like a cunt and it was "tiny" (about 2cm), - luteal cysts tend to go away by themselves tho. You poor ladies with the grapefruit cysts.
It's hardly surprising that after a lifetime of being told that women's pain is normal and not important this becomes the party line even for the most empathetic doctor, though. It's cultural.What I don’t understand is that the female GPs are no better than the male GPs when it comes to women’s health. I mean, in some ways they are better but in other ways they are worse.
Oh, and I don't think they ARE worse, I think they are perceived to be because, you know, they're women.What I don’t understand is that the female GPs are no better than the male GPs when it comes to women’s health. I mean, in some ways they are better but in other ways they are worse.
If it's an institutional issue, a factor which pervades how medicine is researched, taught, received and understood then it's no surprise. You're like the judges on strictly who hold the celebs to account on what the dance ought to have been rather than the dance the professionals taught them.What I don’t understand is that the female GPs are no better than the male GPs when it comes to women’s health. I mean, in some ways they are better but in other ways they are worse.
It's hardly surprising that after a lifetime of being told that women's pain is normal and not important this becomes the party line even for the most empathetic doctor, though. It's cultural.
I don’t know. I perceive a certain “well it’s not so bad for me so how can it be bad for you?” attitude from some of them (on the occasions I have been in attendance)
What I don’t understand is that the female GPs are no better than the male GPs when it comes to women’s health. I mean, in some ways they are better but in other ways they are worse.
Yes, they thought I had appendicitis too from the way I was rolling around screaming. So painful and frightening.I had one of them too when I was 15 and it hurt so much, and responded to pressure in such a way that the GP misdiagnosed it as appendicitis and I was rushed to the emergency room for an operation.
Afterward, as I woke up from the general anaesthetic, the (man) surgeon said "it was only a tiny cyst on your ovary. Must have been pushing against a nerve *shrug*"
Like I was making the pain up or something.
That fucker hurt like a bastard.
I had one of them too when I was 15 and it hurt so much, and responded to pressure in such a way that the GP misdiagnosed it as appendicitis and I was rushed to the emergency room for an operation.
Afterward, as I woke up from the general anaesthetic, the (man) surgeon said "it was only a tiny cyst on your ovary. Must have been pushing against a nerve *shrug*"
Like I was making the pain up or something.
That fucker hurt like a bastard.
Imagine it was bleeding from their dick.It took me something like twenty-five years to be diagnosed. The first 10 years or so, before I had my daughter were fucking awful. Before I was 16 my GP didn't let me on the pill and it changed my life. The four years before that involved SO much bleeding and pain for more days of the month than not.
Can you imagine a world where men have a condition where their arm bleeds unstoppably for a week every month and it hurts, and then for some men it bleeds longer, and some of them bleed in other places and it's hugely painful? Even if it were women bleeding out of their arms in the same way, there would have been major steps taken to combat this from early times. But it's from women's genitals and that makes it bad.
But you can! Well at least the acceptance that it’s normal.I also wasn’t diagnosed until fertility treatment (38 or 39) I had two endometriomas removed, one was 8cm diameter, and the other 5.5cm. I had to wait months for the surgery and then they forgot to refer me back to the fertility clinic. By the time I queried that, I was more or less forty, and too old to be treated.
But I never realised my pain was unusual. I never told a doctor. Periods are supposed to hurt, I thought. Bleeding through and ruining my pants and clothes was, I thought, me “doing it wrong”. I can’t blame the medical profession but I do wonder at how ready I was to accept it all as what I deserved, somehow.
I also wasn’t diagnosed until fertility treatment (38 or 39) I had two endometriomas removed, one was 8cm diameter, and the other 5.5cm. I had to wait months for the surgery and then they forgot to refer me back to the fertility clinic. By the time I queried that, I was more or less forty, and too old to be treated.
But I never realised my pain was unusual. I never told a doctor. Periods are supposed to hurt, I thought. Bleeding through and ruining my pants and clothes was, I thought, me “doing it wrong”. I can’t blame the medical profession but I do wonder at how ready I was to accept it all as what I deserved, somehow.
Yes this is wrong - but we are socialised from an early age to put up and shut up. My mother (b1930) also taught me I should keep everything to do with periods and sanitary protection secret and never mention them to men.I had never looked at it like that before - I’ve really just seen it through the lens of lucky/less lucky in terms of how shit your periods are. And that’s just wrong isn’t it?
Interestingly my mum is having cancer treatment at the moment and they are being (to me) surprisingly responsive about her side effects. They actively asked her about them and are changing her drugs (while she was doing a terribly female/British ‘well, I don’t want to make a fuss, it isn’t unbearable’). The person managing her care overall is a senior nurse practitioner, and I wonder if that makes the difference- she has a consultant as well, of course, but there is someone who is closer to the reality of illness driving some Of the decisions.
if men had periods, they would boast about how heavy their flow was
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But you can! Well at least the acceptance that it’s normal.
There was a conversation between women in an online women’s group I’m in the other day and one woman was complaining about really heavy painful periods and another one told her that wasn’t normal and that she didn’t experience that. First woman got a bit bristly and said well it was pretty normal for most women she knew. Second woman explained that it isn’t normal for periods to be so painful and debilitating and we should kick up a fuss and demand investigation if they are.
I had never looked at it like that before - I’ve really just seen it through the lens of lucky/less lucky in terms of how shit your periods are. And that’s just wrong isn’t it?
Yes. And pharmas aren’t great on diversity in R&D (it’s a huge area of focus) and historically have only tested on men because of the ‘pregnancy risk’.... and on the spiral goesMy observation about the medical profession in general is that they mistake “problem” for “problem with a ready-made solution I can easily diagnose and prescribe for”. So they’ll continuously be dismissive of issues that fit into the former category but not the latter. If they don’t have a pill for it, it doesn’t exist.
I think there have been moves to try to be better about determining levels of pain, discomfort, distress etc, because the standard model has repeatedly proved to be basically just awful and prone to all sorts of bias. There is a huge racial element too for instance - not sure about studies in the U.K. but in the US, black people routinely have their pain downplayed (if you are black and a woman you're really in trouble) and an added point is that if you are in a group like this and you _do_ speak up, you're seen as a malinger and exaggerating.Interestingly my mum is having cancer treatment at the moment and they are being (to me) surprisingly responsive about her side effects. They actively asked her about them and are changing her drugs (while she was doing a terribly female/British ‘well, I don’t want to make a fuss, it isn’t unbearable’). The person managing her care overall is a senior nurse practitioner, and I wonder if that makes the difference- she has a consultant as well, of course, but there is someone who is closer to the reality of illness driving some Of the decisions.
There was a small study here in the UK about carribean / african people with terminal cancer. (Kings College Hospital 15 or 20 years ago I think) It showed they were given less pain relief less often than white british patients.I think there have been moves to try to be better about determining levels of pain, discomfort, distress etc, because the standard model has repeatedly proved to be basically just awful and prone to all sorts of bias. There is a huge racial element too for instance - not sure about studies in the U.K. but in the US, black people routinely have their pain downplayed (if you are black and a woman you're really in trouble) and an added point is that if you are in a group like this and you _do_ speak up, you're seen as a malinger and exaggerating.