He's UNBELIEVABLE! He *really* doesn't realise it, either! I think he thought he was being funny
but the point I was making is that there's a time NOT to take the fucking piss - and just to have a bit of grace and decency - and this was one of them, but y'know surely you don't have to be told!
And I know I might sound like I was being a bitch with the aftershave thing
but honest, I'd say if I *liked* it as much as if I didn't
- and since he got that one I've always said 'Urgh - that's rank!' and then he turned up COVERED in the stuff, lol - and Xmas dinner really is my fave meal of the year
and it really, really DID put me off!
And the kids will like it if he's here - but there again he didn't give a fuck about that last time - and we had a great time as it was and afaic, we are actually at the point where I don't feel at all
obliged to offer (or even, accept his having invited himself), even for their sakes, because I know it'd be fine to do it differently now, iyswim (as it was last year)....so the way he approaches it DOES matter!
And the drinking thing is just cos then he strolls on in being all loud and talking over everyone....and he always does this thing where he takes the piss out of my mum behind her back
(I don't mind anyone taking the piss out of her when she's not THERE, tbf
but I HATE it when people do that shit
)....and all of that stuff changes the atmosphere, iykwim
.....and the main thing is that *I* actually REALLY DO LIKE Xmas
- so if you're fucking INVITING YOURSELF round then fucking well ask nicely and be a bit less thick about the way you do it....it's NOT HARD!
</rant over>