Thing is others have genuinely tried to explain they are socialists not Idpol dudes, but you chop and change between socialism and idpol whenever it suits. Maybe you struggle with these concepts as I do. So admit it, it is alright
I'm a socialist. How am I putting my struggle above the class struggle? I know how capitalism enforces heteronormativity and cissexism but in order to do anything but constantly defend myself the left need to recognise us as who we are and not constantly attack us or undermine us.Thing is others have genuinely tried to explain they are socialists not Idpol dudes, but you chop and change between socialism and idpol whenever it suits. Maybe you struggle with these concepts as I do. So admit it, it is alright
I don't believe you are!
I think Marxist analysis already exists for trans people. Or at least is in the process of being worked out by trans people. It's a pity most of us don't get much further than constantly having to defend ourselves. And of course the priority for us is to achieve equality so we have people in a position where we have influence, where people begin to take notice of our opinions. And if we can't do that through the left - well, I'm in the green party because I found labour an uncomfortable place. But I joined labour in 1983 at age 16 and I always thought I'd be there. Maybe I can go back one day.
No. Not entirely. Transphobia is a bit of an outdated term tbh. I'm trying to remember not use it. Cissexism is more precise.
Brilliant, hopefully we can exchange this information as you guys work it out, where I said "prominent people " I should have said other cis femimists. This obviously has to come from you guys. I think despite the doom and gloom this is interesting times and i don't think it all leads in one direction , the conversation will branch off in many different ways. Ultimately there will be progress for LGBT in general. But nothing is perfect
I know certain people on here won't believe me, but I'm involved day to day with cis feminists, supported by cis feminists, and join in with discussions with cis feminists. Unfortunately most of it at the moment is about how to defend trans people and parents of trans children, which is a great shame.Brilliant, hopefully we can exchange this information as you guys work it out, where I said "prominent people " I should have said other cis femimists. This obviously has to come from you guys. I think despite the doom and gloom this is interesting times and i don't think it all leads in one direction , the conversation will branch off in many different ways. Ultimately there will be progress for LGBT in general. But nothing is perfect
I do not doubt you, I keep wording my posts clumsily-wine! I have seen the vitriol hurled at trans parents who are just listening to their kids and supporting them. Kids can be especially adamant about their gender. My Son for ages thought pink cups were toxic waste but now he Educates others: There is no such thing as girls stuff
Which is how most of my generation grew up. No wonder were mostly pretty screwed up. I tried once to tell my mum about who I really was, when I was 6, and I got so scared, mostly by my dad, that I never tried it again. Just bottled it up.
Not remotely comparable but I first remember experiencing severe depression when I was 8. We didn't have words for it then, things would probably be a bit different now.
Yeah. I spent most of my childhood and 30 years of adulthood trying to pretend it wasn't happening, or finding ways to manage it, or actively trying to purge it out of me. I didn't tell anyone again until I was 27 and that was online to someone in the US (a cis woman, supportive and still a friend today). I was all set to come out properly at 33 but my wife made it clear that she wouldn't tolerate it, so I went back in the closet for another 12 years.
I read your post a few days back about how much better you were feeling now and I think you are so brave to climb that mountain and how much it must have been worth it! It's made me think I need to be more open about my sexuality as I hear bi folks have high rates of suicide and that, my silence makes it harder for others. I shy away from telling people though so I have so much respect for you, and keep fighting!
That's something else that happened. Because I couldn't see who I was objectively all those years, though I was clearly bisexual as a child, I dismissed it as a phase. I was brought up in very homophobic times and a very homophobic community. My parents drummed it into me quite heavily what they would think if I turned out gay. So I suppressed it. Not very effectively. I had a series of relationships with women, partly to try to shake off being gay, and whatever that weird thing was that kept making me think I was, or wanted to be a woman. I mean it cropped up in dreams even if I could stop myself from thinking about it, my dreams would scream it at me, YOU'RE A BLOODY WOMAN, GET USED TO IT!!I read your post a few days back about how much better you were feeling now and I think you are so brave to climb that mountain and how much it must have been worth it! It's made me think I need to be more open about my sexuality as I hear bi folks have high rates of suicide and that, my silence makes it harder for others. I shy away from telling people though so I have so much respect for you, and keep fighting!
Assume we. As I've said before, I'm not atypical, but neither am I going to talk for other trans people. They deserve to be able to talk for themselves.
Thats amazing, it's good to see someone working it out. I had some other physical issues and stuff I won't go into, I also now know my capacity for denial as i worked through my issues with my dad (believed that old lie, abused become abusers, took me til now to realise I could never be capable of that but it ruined the early precious years of being a mum as i went nuts thinking he wasn't safe wth me). I am aware that I have a tendency to go along with stuff sometimes as I crave to not be the piece of shit my dad told me I was, need to be told otherwise. Have always had an issue in that I am mostly romantically attracted to people, sexual stuff is just awkward and difficult! But i now know to be angry at people who failed me and to know never to fail my son in that way. i feel I am at the start of something. Since I got ill every year has been new. Here is to another!
You talk like that to the other people who've posted about their gender dysphoria on this thread?
Good to meet you, and thanks for being an ally
You are very welcome and my PM inbox is always open if this board gets a bit much! Yes, here is to a happy 2018!Good to meet you, and thanks for being an ally
We have a lot in common I think. And yeah, to another year. The last couple have been shit so I'm hoping this one is better
I wasnt taking about politics
