ElizabethofYork
Old Crone
tardigrade is a woman.
Shoplifting on the rise
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brogdale
Coming to terms with late onset Anarchism
The day that the supermarket corporation offers me training to do their work of recognising products correctly I'll start to give a shit about selecting "incorrect"/cheaper products
We don't have to 'get on'. I would just appreciate not being insulted when I post something that is contrary to yours or others opnions. I'm not having a go at you exclusively.
Orang Utan
Psychick Worrier Ov Geyoor
Sorry, but you’ll have to get used to that
Well, you'll have to get used to me posting my opinions, thoughts, ideas etc. If you don't like it, tough. I'm not here to pander to posters who've been around a while.
Silas Loom
Man with glasses
This spat should be settled quickly and cleanly in an escrima contest.
With Harry Hill as the referee!
cupid_stunt
Merry fecking Christmas.
I have no idea why you've tagged me, beyond you being a miserable old cunt.
I have no idea who this poster is, they are certainly not a verified new member from the other place, that are involved in the 'welcome' group chat I set up. nor have I invited anyone here, you fucking weirdo.
I'll await your apology.
Thanks, EoY. Not doing a flounce, I am just really fed up with it all and want a break.
Any idea how I do this (enforced holiday thing). I couldn't get all the 'contact us' page to fill in all the fields. Is there a shortcut, anyone?
TBF, this is not really a new feeling. It is probably me, feeling a bit old and disinclined to be combative, but I honestly don't think calling for bans as a frequent response is reasonable. I am not calling anyone out, naming names or pointing fingers but I really don't feel very comfortable here (which does make me sad cos while I have never been that prolific, this site has been a part of my life for a long time (not as long as for some but still...long). I certainly don't do any other social media apart from aforementioned gardening sites (where I have been since 1997 - there are probably only a dozen of us left after massive flits to FB and Insta).
I really don't like feeling as though I need to take a deep breath before opening my laptop...and there are some posters I would sincerely miss...a lot. Maybe it is just the horrible polarisation of so much in life, as though all nuance, context or complexity has been shoved out of the way. I dunno...I just don't feel that...safe, I used to find the banned returner thing (for new site members) was fairly harmless in a sort of comedic way but lately, I just feel there are darker undertones which can veer close to being an 'in'group and outsiders...which, I think, takes me back to childhood where I ALWAYS felt I was one of the 'out group'. At any rate, I just think we could be a bit...kinder. So yep, I do think a break would be good for me.
Any idea how I do this (enforced holiday thing). I couldn't get all the 'contact us' page to fill in all the fields. Is there a shortcut, anyone?
TBF, this is not really a new feeling. It is probably me, feeling a bit old and disinclined to be combative, but I honestly don't think calling for bans as a frequent response is reasonable. I am not calling anyone out, naming names or pointing fingers but I really don't feel very comfortable here (which does make me sad cos while I have never been that prolific, this site has been a part of my life for a long time (not as long as for some but still...long). I certainly don't do any other social media apart from aforementioned gardening sites (where I have been since 1997 - there are probably only a dozen of us left after massive flits to FB and Insta).
I really don't like feeling as though I need to take a deep breath before opening my laptop...and there are some posters I would sincerely miss...a lot. Maybe it is just the horrible polarisation of so much in life, as though all nuance, context or complexity has been shoved out of the way. I dunno...I just don't feel that...safe, I used to find the banned returner thing (for new site members) was fairly harmless in a sort of comedic way but lately, I just feel there are darker undertones which can veer close to being an 'in'group and outsiders...which, I think, takes me back to childhood where I ALWAYS felt I was one of the 'out group'. At any rate, I just think we could be a bit...kinder. So yep, I do think a break would be good for me.
InArduisFouette
Well-Known Member
you do realise that member profiles state when people joined the site ...
emanymton
A cat politely sat on the flaming gardener.
As a grumpy old git, I feel personaly attacked.
I meant today, but i think you knew that. Haven't you read one of the posts above? Someone is taking time out from this site, because of the way new posters are treated. All you are concerned with is belittling new members. Sad.
emanymton
A cat politely sat on the flaming gardener.
They have only been here since 2023. themselves. Although I assume they used to be someone else on here in the past.
Elpenor
a clown’s heart and a mandolin
emanymton
A cat politely sat on the flaming gardener.
I'll reserve judgement, but I'm not getting huge returner vibes from them yet.
No, the real question is why you can't accept that some new members are just that: new. And why you care so much.
Maggot
The Cake of Liberty
I remember when you were new. And your big faux pas.
ElizabethofYork
Old Crone
Orang Utan
Psychick Worrier Ov Geyoor
I stand by that!
Puddy_Tat
naturally fluffy
you could try PM to one or more of the mods, or doing 'report' on one of your own posts,
although there is this thread which suggests a self-service way of doing it
although read the bit about making sure your e-mail address (the one you use for urban) is up to date first for if / when you do want to come back.
i've never quite reached that point - i have had a few short breaks (on the basis i was getting close to telling someone who really needed it to fuck off, and would probably have got a ban as a result)
do you not think you'd manage to take a short break without a self ban? delete cookies and take urban off your bookmarks / favourites?
or could you try putting some people on ignore (i do it pretty sparingly) but it's sometimes better for the blood pressure that way. it also makes any thread started by that person disappear (one person i put on ignore for reasons i can't remember ended up starting a thread that was worthwhile - can't remember if that was their intention or if the thread mutated - so i ended up un-ignoring them.)
Orang Utan
Psychick Worrier Ov Geyoor
Apologies, must have got the wrong end of the stick. Thought you’d invited a load of people from another board. Dunno why I got that impression. Someone else must have done it
Puddy_Tat
naturally fluffy
i got the impression that a number of people had left - or were getting pissed off with - another forum, and someone among them found this place (ok, who left the porch light on?) and encouraged others of similar pissed off-ness to try it here.
most of us must have been new here some time - i wandered in slightly over 15 years ago and can't remember how i found it now.
cupid_stunt
Merry fecking Christmas.
Yeah, you got the wrong end of the stick, but thanks for the apology.
You should read this thread - https://www.urban75.net/forums/threads/lots-of-new-posters.385136/
Exactly this! I found this site coming across it in a search, not by being a member of some other site.
Serge Forward
Just enjoyin' my coffee.
No need for that.
8ball
Merr xmas...
I have a break of between a couple of months and a good chunk of a year every so often when it gets a bit much. Same sorts of reasons you’ve been mentioning.
I don’t know how the enforced hol works either - I think you need to contact a mod.
Ah, thank you Tats, have contacted editor and hope he can arrange a short(ish) break because I really don't want to lose my shit and have any falling out but I am just not really loving it here atm.
I dare not muck about with cookies, bookmarks and such - would probably fuck it up and never get to come back...plus, I am weak-willed, and like giving up anything which is bad for you, need a bit of help...
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