Why should we be surprised? Men get away with this stuff all the time. A boy in my daughter's class at school used to bully her by watching porn on his phone under the desk next to her. He got suspended for a week once and that was all that was done about it. I regularly see men watching porn on their phones on the bus. A man who I now have to deal with as a sales rep who visits my place of work was sacked from a previous employer we both worked for because he was wanking to porn at his desk. I know, he knows I know. It's not misogyny in the Tory party particularly. It's just misogyny.
That reminds me, a few years ago, a few days after I started a new job, someone came to the office where I was working to get keys to a meeting room in our building, because it turned out his voluntary sector organisation used the meeting room as a venue.
I heard one of my colleagues dealing with him. I ended up having to tell my manager that I'd met this man previously, in a personal capacity for me, but in his 'professional' capacity, ie his role as one of the founders of an autistic-led support organisation. I'd been signposted to his group to ask for help with advocacy and support relating to some housing/antisocial behaviour problems.
He'd arranged to meet me, but had asked for my address, and so I assumed he'd be parking nearby and we'd go for a coffee in a café nearby. Nope. He expected me to get in his car because he wanted to go for coffee in one of the university venues about 10-15-minute drive away. On arrival, we got drinks and sat down and he introduced himself, telling me how important he was, how he attended meetings with the council etc in his role. So far, so puffed up. But then he told me that at one meeting, he'd got into a dispute where a woman had said something about him, and he said she'd lied about something he'd said or done...
...and this is where it started to get even more alarming, because he said something like he felt like slapping her, and if it hadn't been for the fact that she was so far across a big table, he would've done so.
As a survivor of both childhood physical abuse that resulted in me being taken into care, and domestic violence at the hands of a boyfriend as an adult. My inner thoughts at this point are Aaaaaaargh! RED FLAGS!
But I was stuck with him in the bar at this conference venue. Not wanting to kick off, in case he turned nasty. He went on to tell me he was an ex-cop and gave off those 'Respect mah authoritah!' abuse of power vibes.
When driving me home, he drove down Princess Road, through Princess Road, Moss Side, in Manchester, an area with a high proportion of Afro-Caribbean, Black British and African residents and said something about "n******" and said that he often mocked one of his colleagues who was a retired social worker and very politically correct by referring to "n*
n**" when talking to her.
I didn't see him again, subsequently sent him an email saying that although I needed help, I couldn't work with such an appalling racist bigot who also frightened me with respect to his comment about wanting to slap a woman, in the context of me being a survivor of male violence.
I had to relay the information about that incident pre-dating my employment and tell my manager what happened and that I didn't want anything to do with him and that other colleagues would have to deal with him, because I wouldn't. His voluntary sector organisation used the meeting room as a venue for their group, I think it was fortnightly. So I spent a year panicking whenever his voice was on the other end of the intercom and then getting a colleague to deal with him in reception.
The organisation I worked for carried out no safeguarding review or risk assessment. I mean, maybe they couldn't in relation to what he'd said to me, his behaviour that made me feel vulnerable and threatened? But they now knew that he was a racist bigot and also that he had threatened to hit a woman he'd disagreed with in a meeting... and the organisation I worked for were sort of custodians of the keys for the meeting room used as a venue by community groups for their meetings, and the group users would've been classed as vulnerable adults.
No qualms about continuing to let him into the building and continuing to use the facilities. There was a co-founder of the group, presumably the former social worker who he was subjecting to what seems, in hindsight, to be the voluntary group equivalent of a hostile work environment, with his racist bigotry, (albeit she was white).
There seems to be a 'don't rock the boat' attitude and sweeping things under the carpet and not addressing them.