Do you know what I think, I think that since you made reference to raping that dude (I don't really class it as rape btw) that you got called up on it and since then have been extremely defensive...to everyone. Someone disagreeing with you is not always having a pop. I certainly didn't have a pop at you, I just thought that the row with grit was a waste of your time seen as he was trolling and doesn't even think that way.
I do think that getting overly agressive is unhelpful and if you read what I wrote way back when I picked you up on it I was extremely polite in the way I spoke to you, it wasn't a dig, just an attempt to get a discussion going without it getting out of hand.
Be nice if you could respond without ripping my head off cos I am not against you. I am a woman who would like to be able to talk about this stuff right now tbh, it's an issue that is very much affecting me right now.