Let’s leave the men thing. No point.
Also there’s no conclusion. You’re a kinda funny guy for thinking that peoples views are set like that. Most people are more flexible than that aren’t they?
The argument is pretty simple. But you have to understand American culture, at least parts of it, is different from the UK. Different mindset. Much more independent. So hold that in mind. Also I don’t believe all the below I’m just your correspondent over here
Anyway… Dependence on the state is a bad thing. This is for a number of reasons but probably the most fundamental and btw the one I most relate to is that you can’t really be free from the state if you are taking handouts. You are vulnerable and dependent. It’s very key to their deep seated suspicion of Government. Freedom. Second amendment etc
Then there’s an argument around shame about taking handouts. I hear that a lot. A single Mom I know here said she’d rather go on a date and eat salad bar and bring the steak home for her kids than collect welfare. That probably sounds extreme to British ears but I can respect that. There’s a deep cultural expectation that you make your own way, you provide for yourself and your dependents.
Alongside this is an idea that if you are not contributing to society (ie working) then you are on a kind of slippery slope morally. You lose your sense of pride and self esteem, more likely to abuse drugs and alcohol, more likely to not take care of your children, not take care of yourself or family or community. This is upside down from the British or socialist way of thinking so took me a while to see. For example- A lot of folk here truly believe homelessness is a blue state city problem and occurs at much lower rates in red states. I don’t know about that- may be bullshit.
When I’ve discussed the UK riots over here (most people hadn’t heard about them obviously) some of the responses I got were linked to what they perceive as a socialism problem. If British people are dependent on the state for things like healthcare then with a system that already cannot cope with demand then of course there will be riots.
Immigration is also a big topic here of course. The debate here is very polarised- there’s two Americas really. And the working class is mainly Trump.
This in garden across the road to make you laugh
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