I have hundreds of men in my notifications celebrating the death of a young trans woman, thousands blaming TERFs for it angrily and many tens demanding the harshest possible punishments for the perpetrators who themselves may be only 15yo.
I don't know how to put this best but men need to understand that the vast majority of the problem is social, the vast majority of the violence perpetrated by men, & legitimised by a cultural environment that devalues our lives (and the women they blame for creating that culture)
TERFs are awful. They play their bit in radicalising society to destroy trans people, and directly doing harm themselves. I'm not disputing that.
I'm concerned by the ways ppl reach for easy solutions, for blame & further destruction rather than recognising their own culpability
No amount of pointing the finger at TERFs addresses the wider problem that trans women are disposable specifically because of a sexist culture that renders us abhorrent.
A sexist culture that TERFs play their part in but TERFs are such a tiny minority of what's going on here.
If you care about stopping these killings it's on all of us to create A DIFFERENT SOCIETY, one where male violence isn't just accepted as a natural part of life and where women and LGBT people aren't understood to be simply the natural victims of it.
We need to understand that children don't just murder people in a vacuum. That they've barely become independent in understanding the world themselves at that stage of life and play out violent dynamics they have been educated in by adults and authority figures in their lives.
Women, for example TERFs, are blamed because we live in a sexist society that places the responsibility of reproductive labour, care and education primarily on women.
The finger pointing is a symptom of the same sexist system that produces transphobia. I beg you to reconsider.
Why is it that I see news like this and feel wracked by guilt that nothing we've done so far has prevented this from happening but countless out there are looking to point the finger at a tiny minority of arsehole transphobe activists and entirely ignore our transphobic society?
We all have a part to play in changing this and in creating a society that does not allow this to happen again.
I beg you to make that your task not someone else's.
This is one of the problems with our conception of "hate crime" & the way it makes the problem into the mentality of individual criminals and the solution of finding people to punish (distancing ourselves from complicity in the communities that make trans lives disposable).
I don't doubt that we need to deter violent people from doing harm sometimes. But the problem of "hate" murders is the production of social death - legitimised through transphobia, misogyny, racism, ablism, homophobia, contempt for children's rights, and so on.
These aren't just perpetrators, these are cultures of violence that need addressing.