I do like the restorative justice ideas you are both raising and agree with you oskar that this is going to be more likely to get to the facts. How it could be implimented practically is another question - but its a very interesting point
This is a key question.
It depends at what institutional level we're considering, whether parties, employers, or the judicial system. I think a perspective like this is rightly going to look different in each context. And also, I would reiterate that a restorative approach would be relevant only for a
sub-set of cases I think. Or, perhaps better put, there should be a variety of restorative approaches?
Now, considering the case of left parties, as it's to hand, I think an abstract notion of "natural right" just isn't a very good guiding principle in such a sub-set of cases of abuse in interpersonal relationships. For one thing, we should have a much more complex -- dare I say dialectical -- conception of how such relations are inextricably intertwined with wider patterns of social relations, structural forces, and formations of power. This, you would think, should allow us to be both more critical in the sense of more attentive and attuned to noticing potentially abusive relationships, and more critical in the sense of situating these relationships within a wider social analysis -- rather than seeing them merely as a matter of individual guilt/innocence.
This is not to say I don't think we should be vigilant and tough in such cases; I think we should and really I favor a no-tolerance approach. However, it seems to me that a better guiding principle (than natural right/liberal justice) would be some kind of twin conception of safety and human flourishing, inasmuch as this is possible under current social conditions. The former is obviously a precondition for the latter. It's clear to me that abuse proliferates to varying degrees and in various styles in all kinds of relationships. It's also clear that since forms of abuse are so preponderant, and given our understanding of the way individuals bear the mark of wider social relations, we would do better to adopt an approach that recognized the suffering caused by abuse and recognized the suffering of abusers (I am not equating the two, by the way) who in other respects are good human beings. Rather than a judicial approach that aims guilt or innocence, which is impossible for political organizations to determine adequately as we've seen, a restorative approach focused on reducing suffering, making the organization safe for all, and encouraging individuals' flourishing and development seems a possible route for me.
I realize this might all sound rather wishy-washy to some of the hardened souls of U75. And in any case, having said all this, I really think these suggestions imply a left with much more open, democratic and self-critical structures in which power is less concentrated at the top, which adopts quite a different perspective on feminist debates and the personal and social psychology of "(wo)man under capitalism" than the simplistic formulae we hear reiterated, and involves cadre who are far more reflective on these issues and self-reflexive in practice.
Apologies by the way if experienced hands feel this is a derail of the thread. I'm new here so I'm not sure of the norms. Quite happy to take this elsewhere if asked.