I don't purport to be 'neutral' (whatever that means).
My position is that, whilst I consider trans women to be women (and I'm broadly pro-inclusion), I don't believe that any woman who refuses to accept that uncritically is necessarily a transphobe (though, of course, some are).
As such, I believe women have a right to discuss issues of gender, given the social backdrop of misogyny and violence towards women. I believe that should be done respectfully to feelings of trans people, to a point; they have no right to veto what women can discuss.
I also have every sympathy for the suffering of trans people, and think that we should do what we can to alleviate that; I utterly condemn transhobia and abuse of trans people.
I don't think it's a zero sum game, though; I think that there are points around which solidarity can be built. In which regard I think the '#nodebate' stance that is prevalent in social media is positively unhelpful. As is much of the shrill IDPol stuff that's happening IRL.
I'm sorry if that position is too nuanced for you to cast me as the bogeyman. But I find it pathetic that you'd deliberately misrepresent me to score points.