littlebabyjesus
one of Maxwell's demons
Not to the same extent, it seems, but I struggled growing up with male gender expectations and still do on occasion. Gender roles are fine if you are comfortable with them (and I'm kind of envious of people who seem to slide easily along with them), not fine at all if you don't, and I suspect that probably most of us have some kind of difficulty, discomfort and disjoint with them.Well, all I know is that when I was a teenager I was also dysphoric. So much so I went to a doctor. He told me (quite rightly) to fuck off and "stop thinking about it". I was mad at him FOR YEARS. I never felt comfortable in my skin (and to some extent I still don't) and thought I was wrong. It was before the days "gender identity" rhetoric was a thing. I didn't "feel like a woman" precisely because I thought feeling like a woman was the stereotypes I was being forced into. Also sexism. I didn't like being dismissed. I wasn't "like the other girls" (I went to a girls school) and I was an outcasred weirdo becsuse I didn't fit.
Slowly, I realised this feeling has everything to do with how my body (which I REFUSE now to belive is wrong) is coded by society. And how my body would be used and abused by some very sexist people.
So, down with gender. Sex roles are awful.
I'm not a "man in a woman's body" which I've been accused of. . Im *me* with my unique and perfectly fine personality in a *my* female body in a misogynist bullshit sexist society.
And yes, sexism and misogyny is awful.
So where do your experiences and those of weepiper fit in this debate about transgender? I don't know, because I suspect that you may be talking about a different thing. On a different thread recently, scifisam made a very good point about a young boy who liked wearing skirts and was turning up at school in them. She pointed out correctly that he's not necessarily transgender, and we shouldn't be labelling him as such. It does seem that we still very much live in a society where children are not allowed to subvert gender norms without a whole heap of attention being piled onto them and assumptions being made about them.
I agree with you about the destructive nature of gender expectations. But that doesn't make transgender people go away, particularly when they tell you that it's not about that.