Johnny Vodka
I've been somewhat overweight, and significantly underweight. I've struggled with substance abuse, self harm, lifestyle choices that were less than beneficial. I've been wealthy and poor. I've been at the mercy of other people, and in charge of the welfare of many people. I've been held up as an authority, and also used as an example of what to avoid.
I walked all those roads of my own volition, they were all part of my own journey. But all of them were the result of other factors in my life, things that were done to me, or around me, or where not under my control. The good stuff was a result of other factors, and so was the bad stuff.
It's not about laying blame or dodging responsibility: it's about recognising that nothing happens in a vacuum, nothing that anyone experiences is the result of a single factor, but part of a larger much more complex tapestry.
If you're talking to a heroin addict, say, it's as pointless to blame them for the problem as it is to blame the absent mother, or abusive father, or the bullying at school, or the lack of self awareness or their poor will power. It's never one thing.
Certainly a fat person may be lazy. But maybe they didn't start out as lazy, they may have lost motivation as a result of becoming fat. The skinny person down the road may be equally lazy, maybe too lazy to make themselves a proper meal. It may be that both of them is too poor to buy good quality grub, or too ill educated to be able to read a recipe and work it out, or too neglected in childhood to have learned how to take care of themselves, or....
Or they may both be physically unwell in some way, or mentally or emotionally challenged.
But it's pointless to speculate like that. Every person is the way they are because of every single thing that has ever happened to them.
How would you apply your way of thinking to, say a cancer patient? Is it something they did? There's a good deal of evidence to show that a significant amount of cancer is the result of how a person has lived. Should they simply go ahead and change everything - or the one thing - in their life that led to a cancer diagnosis? How? How can you possibly find the one thing that made it happen? And are you going to isolate those cases that were just bad luck? How? And why?
What about illiteracy? Surely that's just about learning to read, isn't it? Lazy fuckers.