I descend to insults all the time. I just try not to make them content-free insults.
You've picked up on precisely what I think is wrong with the way feminism is generally perceived and often practised. In opposition to men. I don't think that can get us anywhere we would want to go. Men suffer under patriarchy too and focusing on what is wrong
for women and
with men just sets up conflict and invites the kind of deeply unpleasant backlash discussed in
this thread without achieving anything meaningful in terms of equality.
Feminism has had some significant achievements but ultimately giving women equal access to high-profile jobs, equal pay and the right to treat men like worthless sex objects doesn't make anything better, it just changes who suffers from the abuse of power by others. So now we have men being objectified in magazines, taken the piss out of in advertising, a massive rise in eating (and related body image) disorders, programmes like
Loose Women being seen as socially acceptable (even progressive), and two incomes being worth as much as one was thirty years ago.
There have been some victories, but mostly I see abject failure. Middle-class feminists have louder voices and so it is their agenda which gets pushed. Identity politics pushing out class politics to the detriment of all bar the most powerful. Same old same old.