Looby, that's really shit, if not (sadly) unusual.
I posted on the pissed off thread (I think) a while go about being out with a friend and some bloke who wouldn't leave us alone. My point -- that you should be able to say 'not interested' and the guy should, with good grace, leave you to it -- was lost in the discussion about how we should've poured a drink over the guy's head or that maybe we hadn't been clear enough that we weren't interested and other such macho/'victim' blaming rubbish. I was quite disappointed at some of the posts from people who I thought were better than that.
Also interesting to ponder that in this situation, it turns out they thought all along that you were ugly and probably a lesbian* or whatever.
*So for a lot of men, this seems to be the ultimate insult. Is it because there obviously must be something wrong with you if you're not into men or that you must be a lesbian because you're so unattractive that you wouldn't be able to find a man even if you wanted one or what? (I'm sure some on here have pondered this way more than I have -- interested in your thoughts.) It always makes me laugh anyway -- I'm not into women but being 'accused' of being a lesbian like it's the worst thing ever just seems utterly bizarre. (FWIW, as a woman with short hair working in a very male field, people are often surprised when they discover I'm straight as they've assumed otherwise.)
I posted on the pissed off thread (I think) a while go about being out with a friend and some bloke who wouldn't leave us alone. My point -- that you should be able to say 'not interested' and the guy should, with good grace, leave you to it -- was lost in the discussion about how we should've poured a drink over the guy's head or that maybe we hadn't been clear enough that we weren't interested and other such macho/'victim' blaming rubbish. I was quite disappointed at some of the posts from people who I thought were better than that.
Also interesting to ponder that in this situation, it turns out they thought all along that you were ugly and probably a lesbian* or whatever.
*So for a lot of men, this seems to be the ultimate insult. Is it because there obviously must be something wrong with you if you're not into men or that you must be a lesbian because you're so unattractive that you wouldn't be able to find a man even if you wanted one or what? (I'm sure some on here have pondered this way more than I have -- interested in your thoughts.) It always makes me laugh anyway -- I'm not into women but being 'accused' of being a lesbian like it's the worst thing ever just seems utterly bizarre. (FWIW, as a woman with short hair working in a very male field, people are often surprised when they discover I'm straight as they've assumed otherwise.)