In my experience of living in different countries and visiting different cultures, I believe you have a choice between social support and cohesion, and personal liberty and tolerance.
You can either do what you like, live how you want to live - and experience less social cohesion and weak family support structures; or you can have strong family structures and social cohesion but little tolerance for idiosyncracy and personal choice.
I guess that´s broadly true. I´ve lived in the USA and Turkey, which seem to fit the extremes to which you refer.