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Men’s violence against women and girls is a national emergency

On reflection….

Saying it’s a “national emergency” might not indicate that numbers are going up.

It might be that finally, someone has recognised that, yunno, intimate partner violence is, like, some kind of national fucking emergency

Or that the police want to improve their image following the recent spate of serving officers convicted of violence against women. I don't think it really matters that much whether offences are 5% higher or lower then a decade ago, or whether changes are due to increased reporting or not. It is as you say a national fucking emergency and has been for our entire lifetimes.
 
A mate I was talking with recently was a victim of child abuse at the hands of his father. Beatings. He’s only just started to deal with the ways that has impacted on his own development and behaviour patterns.

He said “But was it really so bad in the past? I mean, it was really common, loads of people were abused, but everyone just got on with it didn’t they? Are people more coddled these days and therefore less able to handle it?”

We talked for a long time about this. I was saying that “handling it” isn’t necessarily the best option cos it results in projection and acting out on others.

But I was stuck by how he was trying to keep the violence in a tidy box that was labeled “it’s not that bad”.


I wonder if that tendency is one of the things that contributes to reluctance to deal with the larger systemic problem.

Are we collectively and individually reluctant to go there because the pain of doing so will be hard to deal with?

Having to face our own responsibility in colluding in keeping it all going… if we really look into that, will we come up against the ways we’ve been let down, hurt, harmed, twisted and broken? Is that reluctance to face the pain one of the things that stops us from unpicking our own contributions to the bullshit?


As an example, the shitstorm of boarding school survivor syndrome. So many men at the top have this underneath their pathological success. If they really look at rage despair grief etc experienced as a result of being sent way so young…. That would potentially destabilise everything.

The scaffolding is perilously brittle and unmoored.

Maybe part of the problem is how afraid we are - individually and collectively - to shake the framework.
 
I read this article this morning just a cycle a male violence.


One man with with apparently a history of frequent attacks on women. Who was then murderd in revenge for one of those attacks. One of his killers then gets declared a hero for his actions during the London bridge attacks. Another act of violence in response to another act of violence.
 
And an excellent point made by Vicky Foster that individual short term, in the moment acts of bravery by men are lauded and celebrated, while the often longer term bravery and resilience shown by women (surviving abuse, escaping abusers, protecting and bringing up children in the face of individual and systemic misogyny) go under the radar.
 
Stuff has always had some ways of trickling down into younger age groups. Even before the internet this happened, because a small percentage of kids were exposed to it via adults or older siblings etc. And it then it only takes one to spread the language and the ideas around to their peers. And children are incredibly receptive to new ideas and can run with them, or their own adapted, half-understood versions of them, very quickly. Obviously the internet has since increased the potential for spread and inappropriate exposure massively.

Theres probably ways to reduce it a bit but ultimately I dont think we can insulate primary school aged children from the things that go on and get said in broader society and older age groups of children. You have to try to eradicate it across society, and find other ways to blunt the shit, eg by trying to have sensible discussions about it. All the same some cruder responses may be required in terms of limiting the currently unhinged levels of social media content spread to younger age groups, even imperfect ones, but there is way too much indifference and enablement via certain facets of capitalism. There seems to have been a surrender on some of these fronts, from people that would otherwise be expected to wring their hands and say that something must be done. Perhaps they abdicate everything to the concept of personal responsibility within families, and thats not going to stop the toxic trickle down.

I'd love to believe that sensible discussion would work but honestly I don't believe it would stop it.

Laws rigorously imposed will be the only way for this to stop. Zero tolerance...across the Internet and social media workplaces, universities and schools
 
And an excellent point made by Vicky Foster that individual short term, in the moment acts of bravery by men are lauded and celebrated, while the often longer term bravery and resilience shown by women (surviving abuse, escaping abusers, protecting and bringing up children in the face of individual and systemic misogyny) go under the radar.

It's a powerful story and worth recommend all to read it. And it's not an easy read, at that.
 
Sometimes it seems that VAWG isn't taken as seriously as it might be. OTOH the legal system is experiencing appalling delays and the prisons are full.
Prosecutor Frida Hussain KC said the victim “described the defendant making sexual advances that she rejected, and she had to justify why she didn’t want anything to do with him”.

The court heard Rafferty flew into an “undue rage”, threatening to kill the woman and suggesting he could arrange for others to attack her.

The prosecutor added:“He went on to punch her several times in the face and chest, while attacking her with a bladed article. She received cuts to her face and slash marks to her upper chest and abdomen.”

Rafferty gets two years suspended and victim lost friends, felt suicidal and was afraid to leave home.
 
I do wonder if the prudishness about the human body has contributed to the fetishization. With maybe a more healthy view that bodies are not something to be ashamed of or hidden away, and that the people in those bodies be treated as fellow humans and not things to be objectified or abused.
 
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I do wonder if the prudishness about the human body has contributed to the fetishization. With maybe a more healthy view that bodies are not something to be ashamed of or hidden away, and that the people in those bodies be treated as fellow humans and not things to be objectified or abused.
I dunno. Do German naturists watch porn?
 
That’s also about what is newsworthy. I just had a quick google and men are more likely to be a victim of murder. It’s not necessarily a representative sample although obviously one killing is too many


Men are also the perpetrators of much more murders.

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And then there is this...


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"The percentage of females murdered by an intimate partner was 5 times higher than for males

Of the estimated 4,970 female victims of murder and nonnegligent manslaughter in 2021, data reported by law enforcement agencies indicate that 34% were killed by an intimate partner (figure 1). By comparison, about 6% of the 17,970 males murdered that year were victims of intimate partner homicide."

That's from 2022.
Could well be even worse now.
 
Also posted on the 'filth by name ' thread but thought it might be of interest here too - this is why rape goes unreported, two forces and the CPS have mishandled this case for eight years:

 
I'm feeling very frightened and distressed about what's happening. The unremitting violence against women and girls, the hatred I see every day on social media, and now the rioting and unrest breaking out. I think I might barricade myself in my house and stay there. Everything feels so threatening.
 
I feel like that some days myself. It's certainly put me off going to matches - when I was at Gainsborough Trinity last weekend, there was a group of loud obnoxious men shouting 'you fat bastard' at someone and I did feel a bit twitchy near them. But I'm not going to stop living my life just because of some idiot Neanderthal men. I am one of the lucky ones, admittedly, because the men in my family are decent people and not disgusting woman-hating Andrew Tate fans. I am wary around large groups of men though. And before anyone calls me classist, that includes hoorays.
 
Not national but I think this belongs here. Taylor Swift concerts cancelled in Vienna because of threatened terrorist attacks. Two young men arrested, one who has pledged alliance to the Islamic State Taylor Swift Vienna concerts cancelled after attack threat

Some people may say this isn’t violence against women and girls but I don’t believe it’s a coincidence that concerts by female singers with an overwhelmingly female fan base are targeted.
 
2 million women a year are victims of male violence.
The Metropolitan Police says it is “extremely sorry” for failures in protecting two domestic murder victims from harm.

Two vulnerable women, Naomi Hunte and Fiona Holm, were killed 17 months apart within a few miles of each other in South London.

Behind the recent successful conviction of Carl Cooper lies a catalogue of failures which both families believe could have saved the lives of their loved ones:



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The Late Naomi Hunte

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The Late Fiona Holm

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“We again extend our sincere condolences to their families as they continue to grieve for these two beloved women.

“We have always been clear that we made mistakes when dealing with allegations against Carl Cooper. For those mistakes we are extremely sorry.”​
 
Look at their report titled Brought to Justice: UPDATE: Domestic abuser who killed two women is sentenced to life imprisonment where it reads like it was through their indefatigable efforts they found this guy.

In actual fact, both women had repeatedly contacted the police to say they were scared of Carl Cooper and the Met did fuck all

RIP Fiona and Naomi. They haven’t found Fiona. Just awful for her family and no remorse at all. The psycho shit head is enjoying the control.


And let’s add to this thread the woman and 11 year old girl who were stabbed in Leicester Square today.
 
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Wtf!!?!! And no jail time??
Not even in a secure Hospital, I suppose they full too?.
When even the judge states a sentence for serious physical assault is suspended partly because the jails are full he is saying he can't administer the law properly and we are in a very bad place.
Though I wouldnt discount the possibility that the judge is just using that as an excuse to mask his own bias towards leniency to succesful white men and/or misogynistic attitude to women
 
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