International Mens Day

[xenon]

Lost cause, mate. I get some sort of confidence/buzz through running and stuff, but it's really not going to carry over into other aspects of my life. I can fake it enough just to get by, as in work and socialise.

I do relates to a bit of what you are saying. Again I'm not going into my life details either. It's the wrong forum for a start And I don't find it that helpful, dwelling on my perceived failures or what you will. But one thing to maybe try, when you are having particularly negative thoughts about yourself, Try deliberately thinking the opposite. Thinking, no actually what if I am not shit, what if I say I am not this caricature. I am objectively good at some things, I can talk to people, they don't in the main, run away or throw up.

I know it sounds like some half arsed CBT thing. But it's the only way IME of smashing through it. Do stuff you are good at and enjoy, look around, get interested in something, Get out of that headspace.

It doesn't work all the time, it can be hard work but what else is there.

 

[xenon]

Anyway at least the poetry has stopped now.

 

[Johnny Vodka]

Good to hear you put the effort in. Never mind dates. Still pressing you on things like politics - are you involved locally? The gift that keeps on giving, surely? Or, less controversially: camera club, book club, history society, wine tasting (OK, I'm making it up). Politics, though - surely there is room to engage there? Surely you aren't one of Eric Berne's stereotypes.

TBH, I'm not looking for new hobbies. I don't want or need to spend loads of extra time out. I keep myself pretty busy with stuff in the flat and running. In fact, I need more time... If anything, I'm too good at being alone - have structured my life so I'm never bored.

 

[pengaleng]

last night I watched a thing on netflix called ' The Mask You Live In' it's about male culture and raising boys to be better more emotionally secure men

I think everyone should watch it.

 

[mauvais]

TBH, I'm not looking for new hobbies. I don't want or need to spend loads of extra time out. I keep myself pretty busy with stuff in the flat and running. In fact, I need more time... If anything, I'm too good at being alone - have structured my life so I'm never bored.

Have you done the whole OKCupid etc thing? If so, what happened?

 

[Johnny Vodka]

Have you done the whole OKCupid etc thing? If so, what happened?

Yeah, pof, ok cupid and probably a few others. Used to have some degree of success, but that was due to mass messaging and being pretty much prepared to give anyone a chance. It was necessary and fun of sorts at the time, but not a tactic I'd return to. 'Liking' people, then messaging 'mutual matches', is about as much effort as I'm willing to put in these days.

 

[weltweit]

TBH, I'm not looking for new hobbies. I don't want or need to spend loads of extra time out. I keep myself pretty busy with stuff in the flat and running. In fact, I need more time... If anything, I'm too good at being alone - have structured my life so I'm never bored.

The great thing about joining things based on interests is that if you meet someone you will have a shared interest. I joined a camera club, which if I was attracted to retirement age old men would be great for romance ... You run, what about a running club?

 

[Johnny Vodka]

You run, what about a running club?

I run alone. I have no interest in running in a pack. I like to run out into the country. The less people i see, the better.

 

[pengaleng]

I run alone. I have no interest in running in a pack. I like to run out into the country. The less people i see, the better.

so you're ambivalent about romantic company then?

you dont sound like you really know what you want.

 

[weltweit]

I run alone. I have no interest in running in a pack. I like to run out into the country. The less people i see, the better.

You could do both.

 

[weltweit]

I would have thought there might be lots of fit women in a running club!

 

[Orang Utan]

I run alone. I have no interest in running in a pack. I like to run out into the country. The less people i see, the better.

I think you would enjoy the works of Arthur Rimbaud

 

[Athos]

I run alone. I have no interest in running in a pack. I like to run out into the country. The less people i see, the better.

Fewer!

 

[Johnny Vodka]

so you're ambivalent about romantic company then?

Coz I prefer to run solo?

 

[Johnny Vodka]

I think you would enjoy the works of Arthur Rimbaud

Explain.

 

[Orang Utan]

Explain.

He shares the same world-view. Check out his poetry.

 

[Johnny Vodka]

He shares the same world-view. Check out his poetry.

I might have a look, but I don't really like poetry.

 

[Orang Utan]

I might have a look, but I don't really like poetry.

go out of your comfort zone and try it, you will like some of it. It's not something you can really dislike as a whole.

 

[pengaleng]

Coz I prefer to run solo?

I read what you said in a rap lyric way

so not literal running

 

[Gromit]

 

[Johnny Vodka]

If you're against International Men's Day, you're not a true feminist

 

[IC3D]

I want that on a t shirt! Re Gromits post

 

[Johnny Vodka]

It's come around again. I spotted one measly article in The Guardian about it - and it's written by a woman.

 

[butchersapron]

Fuck off then.

 

[maomao]

It's come around again. I spotted one measly article in The Guardian about it - and it's written by a woman.

Funny how this is another interest you share with the banned paedophile that started the thread. The first being defending some kinds of child pornography in order to ensure your right to watch films with graphic rape scenes.

 

[8ball]

Funny how this is another interest you share with the banned paedophile that started the thread. The first being defending some kinds of child pornography in order to ensure your right to watch films with graphic rape scenes.

That's a pretty salty accusation to be throwing around on the basis of someone posting on a thread.

 

[Johnny Vodka]

Funny how this is another interest you share with the banned paedophile that started the thread. The first being defending some kinds of child pornography in order to ensure your right to watch films with graphic rape scenes.

Eh, what the fuck are you on about?

 

[Johnny Vodka]

Fuck off then.

Nah, you fuck off. *puts butchersapron back on ignore*

 

[kabbes]

They tried to have an event for it at work. It comprised table football and that’s about it. Because apparently thinking about the psychosocial impacts of masculinity is passé and being a man is now synonymous with being a child.

 

[8ball]

They tried to have an event for it at work. It comprised table football and that’s about it. Because apparently thinking about the psychosocial impacts of masculinity is passé and being a man is now synonymous with being a child.

Someone at work put something on our forum about it.
I put a reply in what has become my customary "house style".

No replies so far - think I may be on trouble - am on final warning for getting kicked off work forum as it is...

edit: actually I do have one like from a srsly feminist type