dysfunction and pathology is because we dont take responsiblity
That's a heck of broad and overly defensive brush you're wielding there. Surely the degree of 'blame' (a terrible way to start looking at it, btw) depends on the 'mental illness' in question.
With autism, for eg, AFAIK it has entirely genetic causes, so there can be no question of blame (unless someone wanted to start blaming people for having a child in the first place).
Then again, with say schizophrenia, AFAIK has a lot to do with nurture. But then can you 'blame the parents'? I'm not sure that's a practically helpful - and is probably a very damaging - way to look at it.
Almost all the characteristics of personality passed on by carers seems to be done less than fully self-consciously, so while it is possible to apportion blame to parents, gaining insight to break damaging patterns of behaviour would seem to be the way to deal with it.
Maybe blame is a bollocks concept, because, who do the parents blame for their dysfunction?
Maybe its about responsibility.
By that, I don't mean, people should feel responsilble for another individual, but I do mean, they should be responsible for themselves.
Each and every one of us.
If I had a kid who was a bully, sitting blaming myself would be futile.
If I thought about it responsibility, I would perceive my part in the whole thing, non self judgementally, but objectively.
I would act in any way I could to improve or help the situation.
My child, if responsible, would see their role in the situation and be responsible for taking action to correct the pathology.
Pathology is part of life, but as individuals, we must be responsible for not giving ourselves or others dysfunctional behaviour/pathology.
Sometimes, in ignorance, we do give others pathology, but it is our responsibility to become aware of any dysfunctional behaviour/pathology and correct it.
Its all a part of learning, which is another personal responsiblity.
Pathology, of which Mr Wee and Poo man, is deeply immersed, grows when people fail to take responsibility for themselves.
That is, fail to respond, in the right way, to life, for the greater good.
I stress, responsibility is not another word for blame.
Responsiblity is not about guilt.
It is about our response.
It is about responding to, rather than dumping responsiblity on, or feeling guilt.