I went to private school </not real urbans> and you are right in that expectation was high. But it wasn’t just high at school, it was high at home too. You are dealing with an entire community that values academia. That has huge levels of resources at home and at school. We went on at least three theatre trips a year, we had our own, brand new text books every year that we didn’t share, we had loads of extra curricular stuff on which we were encouraged to do both by parents and teachers.... we were told all the time that we were the brightest and the cleverest and that we would be the movers and shakers of the world. We were doing practice papers for GCSE in year seven. Parents took active interest because they could, so messages from school were reinforced at home. We weren’t loved any more or less than any other kids, we weren’t actually any cleverer than any other group of kids, but boy does it make it easier when you live in a nice home in a quiet suburb with low crime, aren’t arriving in school cold and hungry and get to have nice holidays and lots of toys.
I also remember friends crying because they ‘only’ got 80% in an end of topic test and not 100%, I remember them vomiting with nerves before their exams, one took a gap year because she didn’t get into Oxford and that wasn’t good enough, I really struggled my first year in uni because I had to really think for myself instead of being coached and spoon fed the exact info I needed. I look at my old school mates now and most of them are arseholes tbh. I think about how little pastoral support was offered and how when I was in sixth form and was suicidal, rather than ask what was wrong, my last ever school report was that I needed to apply myself if I wanted to get the grades I wanted. It was noted my usual enthusiasm and cheery nature had waned. But I needed to buck up was the attitude I got back. It just made me want to die even more. I didn’t get great A level results, not in comparison to school expectations at any rate. I think about how hard it was for the kids not naturally academic, how kids were quietly asked to leave so results wouldn’t be screwed up, how any other form of intelligence was not valued at all. I am very unconvinced that following the private model is the way we want to progress education.