Middle-aged man, I want update image/clothing, where do I start?.

[Edie]

if you have to wear sunglasses to protect you from the glare of your own stupid shiny tie something's gone wrong.

Agreed

 

[weltweit]

Says the man who posts pics of shoes that are not so much Cornish Pasty as faux all-terrain Pork Pie

Not my fault you lot can't recognise top class footwear when you see it !!

 

[killer b]

Are they only in that London though?

Yeah... tbh, if you don't live in London (or another capital city) and want to dress well affordably, you've two options: you can scour tkmaxx for nice stuff, or you can use mail order. There are decent clothes shops elsewhere, but they tend to be very expensive. Some of the chains are ok for basics mind.

 

[Leo2]

I don't think that is a good look

Fair 'nuff - I'm a student who couldn't even afford the tie on that model, so what do I know? But if I was a fifty something bloke, I would want to wear a suit or smart casual clothes, rather than jeans and a T. But we all have our personal tastes.

 

[magneze]

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Can he hold up today's newspaper?

 

[girasol]

I don't think you can't buy individuality and style. I'm trying to think of the better dressed middle aged men I know and they are all confident in what they wear.

It would be nice to live in a world where men felt they had the right to experiment with clothes, like women do. But when they do they generally get laughed at or ridiculed. The stylish dressers I know: one is a graphic designer, one is a teacher and the most stylish of all is a makeup artist - they are all very self assured people. And therein is the secret: confidence and not giving a shit what other people think.

And of course, they care about what they wear and enjoy shopping, they spend time making those choices and thinking about it, whereas other people just don't. Which is also fair enough

I'm a middle aged woman and sometimes I wish I could just wear the same favourite outfit, just to save the old 'I have nothing to wear' nonsense, it just keeps things simple when you have other things to worry about.

 

[Edie]

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Freddie looks like he kills prositutes in his spare time. I would not be taking fashion advice from him.

killer b is a better bet. He should lend out his services freelance.

 

[girasol]

It's all down to taste, there's no right or wrong, one person's 'he looks like a cunt' is another person's 'he looks divine!'.
(for the record the dude in blue suit with orange tie everyone is slagging off: to me he just looks Italian )

How to dress in your 40s
Looking at famous people for inspiration can be helpful. Out of those, I think Beckham is the most stylish, but then again given what his wife does, you'd expect that. (scroll down the article to see them wearing different outfits)

 

[bimble]

here's a thing about some possible options for the gentleman of larger stature.
‘Big guys don’t want to be treated like freaks’: the plus-sized menswear revolution

 

[killer b]

here's a thing about some possible options for the gentleman of larger stature.
‘Big guys don’t want to be treated like freaks’: the plus-sized menswear revolution

I read that article, have to say they did a pretty rubbish job with Stephen Moss.

How big is he Edie? and is the 'losing it' bit an aspiration or a reality? Probably little point in an expensive new wardrobe if it's not going to fit in three months...

 

[bimble]

I read that article, have to say they did a pretty rubbish job with Stephen Moss.

True. It's always a bit offputting when the 'before' pic looks better than the after ones.

 

[Edie]

here's a thing about some possible options for the gentleman of larger stature.
‘Big guys don’t want to be treated like freaks’: the plus-sized menswear revolution

That's really useful, ta. Have read it for him (he won't have time)

 

[Edie]

I read that article, have to say they did a pretty rubbish job with Stephen Moss.

How big is he Edie? and is the 'losing it' bit an aspiration or a reality? Probably little point in an expensive new wardrobe if it's not going to fit in three months...

He is pretty much exactly the same build and body shape as the guy in that article.

The losing weight thing is real, he's lost about three stone in 18 months. He probably will lose another stone or so. But it's gradual. I think he's allowed to buy some clothes in the meantime. I got him about three tops from the maxx at Christmas. But I'm not gonna lie mate, we need help. I don't know shit about mens fashion and he neither.

edit: he definitely does not want to look cool iyswim. Those trainers from bolton for example, they would look great on you but they would just look ridiculous on him. Like your dad about to try out raving.

 

[killer b]

He's allowed new clothes, of course - I was just thinking that would have an impact on budget is all.

 

[Edie]

He's allowed new clothes, of course - I was just thinking that would have an impact on budget is all.

Yeah, no totally, it was a good question

 

[Winot]

There's some useful stuff on the Grey Fox blog (although beware part of the purpose is marketing).

Grey Fox: Middle-aged spread - how to manage it with style: Sarah Gilfillan advises

 

[killer b]

Like your dad about to try out raving.

My dad was wearing baby pink cords and converse last time I saw him. I think he is about to try out raving.

 

[Winot]

It's all down to taste, there's no right or wrong, one person's 'he looks like a cunt' is another person's 'he looks divine!'.
(for the record the dude in blue suit with orange tie everyone is slagging off: to me he just looks Italian )

How to dress in your 40s
Looking at famous people for inspiration can be helpful. Out of those, I think Beckham is the most stylish, but then again given what his wife does, you'd expect that. (scroll down the article to see them wearing different outfits)

All those men are slim

 

[bimble]

Daniel Craig looks awful with his slimfitting jumper over shirt efforts.

 

[Monkeygrinder's Organ]

All those men are slim

And loaded.

That article - 'get a Rolex and a Saville Row suit' - Oh OK handy advice there.

 

[bimble]

What's the general view of corduroy here? I love it, soft but rugged hardwearing traditional fabric, comes in all the colours and can do the job of denim.. mr bimble not having any of it though.

 

[Winot]

What's the general view of corduroy here? I love it, soft but rugged hardwearing traditional fabric, comes in all the colours and can do the job of denim.. mr bimble not having any of it though.

Big fan here. Just make sure it's thin wale and that the trousers are slim and flat-fronted (i.e. no pleats).

 

[killer b]

Corduroy is fine, for people who aren't prepared to take the plunge and go full double denim.

 

[bimble]

thin wale.

New word! cheers.

 

[killer b]

I used to post on a forum for denimheads, which also spread out to cover a wider workwear / vintage aesthetic... most of the dudes on there are middle aged, and some have a very sharp sense of style: I've just nipped back and picked a few photos of the kind of thing I think an older guy might like to wear in his days off. One thing it shows is that casual doesn't necessarily mean jeans/t-shirt.

 

[JuanTwoThree]

I'd rather be dunked in a dog-shit fondue than look like that Stephen Moss.

welldresseddad.com is good.

Those 300+ euro jeans. I told my missus that if I wore suits for work I'd need a couple of decent ones at 200 € a pop. I don't: I wear jeans. So 25oz jeans are a bargain. Guess how far that line of argument got me.

But she can drop €100 on a pair of crappy shoes. That fall apart.

And 25oz!! Proper US made shrink-to-fit Levis were 14 oz, weren't they? These stand up on their own. You could leave them to your grandchildren in your will.

You'd think logic, my logic, would prevail.

 

[weltweit]

here's a thing about some possible options for the gentleman of larger stature.
‘Big guys don’t want to be treated like freaks’: the plus-sized menswear revolution

Don't wash your jeans for 3 months? wtf ..

 

[Monkeygrinder's Organ]

Don't wash your jeans for 3 months? wtf ..

Innit. It's supposed to be 6 at least!

 

[beesonthewhatnow]

Don't wash your jeans for 3 months? wtf ..

That bit always strikes me as bollocks It's to do with ensuring you get spidery fade lines all over them apparently.

 

[weltweit]

That bit always strikes me as bollocks It's to do with ensuring you get spidery fade lines all over them apparently.

They said you can put them in the freezer to banish smells. Who wants to put frozen jeans on?