Smokeandsteam
Working Class First
I also grew up in an area where violence was the norm. As I've already said, I don't think most martial arts are useful for self defense, apart from the ones that teach close contact fighting or weapons fighting. Yes, you'd have to spend some time learning the skills involved, but surely it's worth it to have more confidence in yourself.
I don't have an issue with anyone learning self defence if they choose to. It's good discipline, good fitness and it can certainly provide some confidence. I would encoruage everyone to learn if they want to. I am assuming that your advice is along the same lines.
But, speaking as a man - we are not talking here about being able to defend yourself/fight when it kicks off or when fronted up. As many of the posters here have already made clear the violence here is often more insidious, about power, increasingly carried out by groups and often more cowardly than much of the violence I and other men will have been involved in involving other men. If you are also a man, you should hopefully recognise the difference from your own experience. I am not saying that this is the case in every case, but generally speaking it is the case.
Ulitmately, even if every woman was fully trained in self defence it isn't really the point. The issue isn't 'what more should women do for when they are inevitably attacked' it's what can we/society do to tackle the social construction of masculinity that creates the issue on this scale in the first place. That's the debate I was hoping we would have on this thread because its the one that matters.