ElizabethofYork
Old Crone
What sort of weapon should we carry around with us?Size doesn't matter as much, if you have some kind of weapon to use against them.
What sort of weapon should we carry around with us?Size doesn't matter as much, if you have some kind of weapon to use against them.
So what else has worked in the thousands of years women have been routinely attacked?So we have to make all these amendments to our usual behaviour because men? No
We have the right to expect a life without violence in it. As a bare minimum.
You can train in the art of weapon fighting. There is a martial art called Escrima that teaches you to fight with a weapon small enough to carry in your hand. The skills you learn can be transferred to bigger weapons, if needed.What sort of weapon should we carry around with us?
Most people, men or women, are very bad at fighting. It doesn’t come naturally. It’s not a solution. It is inherently risky. Carrying offensive weapons is illegal for good reasons.
Comparing martial arts for self defence is a massive derail.
I didn't say it did. I was mainly referring to attacks outside the home. As for inside the home, that's more complex, but I wouldn't rule out using a weapon if necessary.How does martial art defend one against coercive control, verbal assault, financial abuse, emotional abuse?
So you think that getting arrested for carrying a weapon, is more important than defending yourself?Most people, men or women, are very bad at fighting. It doesn’t come naturally. It’s not a solution. It is inherently risky. Carrying offensive weapons is illegal for good reasons.
Comparing martial arts for self defence is a massive derail.
I didn't say it did. I was mainly referring to attacks outside the home. As for inside the home, that's more complex, but I wouldn't rule out using a weapon if necessary.
Better than being seriously hurt or worse.Becoming the kind of person who causes harm and hurt can severely damage one’s sense of self.
Having to stoop the cause harm, whatever the motivation or cause, feels incredibly corrosive.
You can train in the art of weapon fighting. There is a martial art called Escrima that teaches you to fight with a weapon small enough to carry in your hand. The skills you learn can be transferred to bigger weapons, if needed.
I get what you're saying, but something has to change.The loud crazy examples of obvious violence are at the very top of a huge stable pyramid of quiet, stable, unrecognised, unacknowledged, unseen stuff that rarely gets reported, and convicted even less.
So you think that getting arrested for carrying a weapon, is more important than defending yourself?
BTW, I didn't mention illegal weapons, you did.
I also grew up in an area where violence was the norm. As I've already said, I don't think most martial arts are useful for self defense, apart from the ones that teach close contact fighting or weapons fighting. Yes, you'd have to spend some time learning the skills involved, but surely it's worth it to have more confidence in yourself.It's not how violence works though. I grew up in a town that was insanely violent and saw a lot of it when I was younger, including big hefty blokes reduced to begging someone half their size to stop and someone I know who had a black belt doing all his fancy moves whilst the bloke just laughed at him and then hit him in the face with a bottle.
I'm not derailing, I'm genuinely trying to offer a solution. It's not a popular solution and never has been. But i don't see any other solutions talked about here, that could make an immediate difference. Even if just for a few women.All weapons which might plausibly be used for self defence are illegal to carry for that purpose. And yes, I think that legislation is very sensible and there’s no valid reason to argue that it should be broken.
Let’s stop derailing.
The only solution is that men will have to change their behaviour!I get what you're saying, but something has to change.
I'm not derailing, I'm genuinely trying to offer a solution. It's not a popular solution and never has been. But i don't see any other solutions talked about here, that could make an immediate difference. Even if just for a few women.
If girls and women were trained in extreme martial arts or boxing, believe me they would know how to fight back instinctively. Self defense classes don't go far enough.
As far attackers coming from behind, always be aware of your surroundings, especially at night.
Obviously it wouldn't be a good idea to punch a cop who approached us! But if they're not in a police car (he wasn't), nor in uniform (he wasn't), be very suspicious and look for a way to escape.
I was in a coercive relationship several years ago, and I know how it can destroy you from inside. I've seen a lot of violence, and a lot of controlling behaviour. All we do is go round in circles, coming up with nothing new to the problem. Defending yourself is a solution, if an unpopular one.Confidence isn’t the problem.
Coercive control undermines and destroys the confidence, then the abuse begins.
I suggest that rather than digging into a position of defence here you pause and think about the replies you’re getting. It’s obvious you want things to be better, also obvious that you need to have a more nuanced understanding of the underlying issues.
Not having a go.
But you’re at risk of getting it in the neck with your Insistence that hitting back is the right answer.
The only solution is that men will have to change their behaviour!
Fuck off yourself. I don't see you offering any solutions.Oh do fuck off.
OK, it might mitigate the problem for a few people, in defined circumstances. But really it’s another “solution” that’s saying women have to change. It’s not that far off telling women to dress differently etc.I'm not derailing, I'm genuinely trying to offer a solution.
I was in a coercive relationship several years ago, and I know how it can destroy you from inside. I've seen a lot of violence, and a lot of controlling behaviour. All we do is go round in circles, coming up with nothing new to the problem. Defending yourself is a solution, if an unpopular one.
What use would that weapon be if grabbed from behind and bashed over the head? By the time your brain comrehends what is happening, it's too late for weapons, karate chops or anything else.You can train in the art of weapon fighting. There is a martial art called Escrima that teaches you to fight with a weapon small enough to carry in your hand. The skills you learn can be transferred to bigger weapons, if needed.
Fuck off yourself. I don't see you offering any solutions.