Just found out a guy who works for me is being a git

[weltweit]

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The defence is about the way the attack was made. Pull someone up on their comments by all means but there was no need for firky to be such a cunt and imply that no-one wanted someone like Manter on the boards.

Quite right. Firky you are a twat.

 

[cesare]

Quite right. Firky you are a twat.

The nutter has spoken.

 

[Firky]

Quite right. Firky you are a twat.

If calling someone up like I did makes me a twat. I am a twat.

Better a twat than "the Indian".

 

[Winot]

To be honest I don't think you really 'get' what Urban is, what it's roots, what it stands for. That maybe diluted somewhat because of it's recent popularity, and it's more prominent posters leaving Urban for Facebook because people like you are starting to water it down.

Not going to chase you off the boards are hound you down, but I do think you need to have a think about what Urban is and how you fit into it. New comer of the year or not.

What qualifies you to decide what Urban is and what it 'stands for'?

 

[friedaweed]

Oh God. Now I'm getting a mental vision of Manter in a tumbril, with her blonde tresses unbound and a bewildered expression on her face weeping "but but but let them eat cake" whilst the lunch mob hurl greggs pasties and brandish those plastic forks you half inch out of pret and the tumbril gets wheeled inexorably towards the shadow of the guillotine bearing the banner of UK P&P ...

Will the Indian (misogynist) get to throw one at our dear Manter?
Pingu's gonna have some right fucking problems if he's allowed to end up throwing a pastry at a woman on a thread where he was up in the dock for dissing girl power in the work place I wonder what the indian gentleman's views on high heels are

 

[pengaleng]

If someone's upset because someone else on the Internet told them no one wanted them on a forum then I'd say man the fuck up you little shitcunt, you are nothing, as if people give that much of a shit about you.

 

[Firky]

We're on page 10 now, Winot.

 

[wiskey]

If someone's upset because someone else on the Internet told them no one wanted them on a forum then I'd say man the fuck up you little shitcunt, you are nothing, as if people give that much of a shit about you.

no, I think it can be hurtful.

and I think she will be hurt.

I hope firky wasn't intending to hurt her, I hope he was just trying to get his point across.

hopefully she will be back.

 

[Mrs Magpie]

She is hurt, and I can see why. Still, it's not her that's come out of this looking like a cunt.

 

[pengaleng]

I still wouldn't assume that many people actually gave a shit about me, but clearly they do

 

[cesare]

This is probably one of the most appropriate occasions to remind people to check their privilege, but we're not allowed to do that now.

 

[stuff_it]

She is hurt, and I can see why. Still, it's not her that's come out of this looking like a cunt.

TBH I suspect Firky for one was simply redressing the balance after his recent good behaviour.

 

[Firky]

Well it depends what you makes a cunt doesn't it. I'd say no one on this thread was being a cunt, in fact I think you're the first person to say that, Mrs M. Are we not allowed to pull people up on using inappropriate phrases now, have you read the thread or responded to a reported post?

No Wiskey, I wasn't. As you remarked I have mellowed somewhat. If I wanted to be hurtful I'd have gone about things quite differently. Stale sausage rolls - not fresh ones.

 

[Firky]

This is probably one of the most appropriate occasions to remind people to check their privilege, but we're not allowed to do that now.

Without being called a cunt anyway.

 

[pengaleng]

If you wanna call someone a cunt then just come out and say it, spineless.be direct, don't make yourself look like a total fucking cunt. No one has time to fuck about here.

 

[Greebo]

<snip>Stop being a soft shite, Manter and get your arse back on U75 and give me a royal kicking. I say plenty of shit that you can pull me up on.

Firky, it's easy for you, you're long since used to urban's rough ways and you know that neither grudges nor beefs are held for long. You're secure in your own not-so-little fan club. Less easy for relative newbies.

 

[Mrs Magpie]

Particularly if you're a newish poster and a poster here makes serious as yet unsubstantiated accusations to the mods about you

 

[cesare]

Firky, it's easy for you, you're long since used to urban's rough ways and you know that neither grudges nor beefs are held for long. You're secure in your own not-so-little fan club. Less easy for relative newbies.

It's a bit of a privilege reversal going on, and probably hard to take so be gentle.

 

[Greebo]

It's a bit of a privilege reversal going on, and probably hard to take so be gentle.

Believe it or not I'm really struggling right now to stop myself being more abrasive and direct than usual (delightful part of a migraine is the lack of inhibition).

 

[pengaleng]

New poster or not I doubt this is their first exposure to the ways of the Internet, look at some YouTube comments ffs.

 

[Winot]

We're on page 10 now, Winot.

Did I miss your earlier answer?

Perhaps you could answer the question now.

 

[ymu]

It's a bit of a privilege reversal going on, and probably hard to take so be gentle.

Having caught up with those threads, I salute your kind and gentle soul. Impressive (genuinely, in case it looks like I'm being sarcy).

 

[Greebo]

New poster or not I doubt this is their first exposure to the ways of the Internet, look at some YouTube comments ffs.

Not the same. This isn't YouTube. This is supposed to be a fucking community, right? So if somebody (one of the regulars at that) calls you a cunt and tells you that you're not wanted here (or that's how it sounds) you might take it as a hard slap in the face.

 

[Mrs Magpie]

Particularly if another poster has accused you of pretty nasty stuff, which as yet the mods have not been given a shred of evidence of.

 

[pengaleng]

Not the same. This isn't YouTube. This is supposed to be a fucking community, right? So if somebody (one of the regulars at that) calls you a cunt and tells you that you're not wanted here (or that's how it sounds) you might take it as a hard slap in the face.

I'd just tell em to fuck off tbh. But nevertheless I understand what you are getting at and I wish anti sensitivity medication existed

 

[friedaweed]

New poster or not I doubt this is their first exposure to the ways of the Internet, look at some YouTube comments ffs.

I always thought urban was a little bit more of a community spirited place. Let's say a bit more wholesome a gaff that placed a 'not welcome' door mat to some of the rather odd individual sick fucks that you find posting their bile on you tube.
Has it changed?

 

[pengaleng]

Particularly if another poster has accused you of pretty nasty stuff, which as yet the mods have not been given a shred of evidence of.

Oh spit out what the fuck you are getting at or just fuck off, no one cares, have you got no idle gossip to call someone about or something?

 

[Greebo]

I always thought urban was a little bit more of a community spirited place. Let's say a bit more wholesome a gaff that placed a 'not welcome' door mat to some of rather odd individual sick fucks that you find posting their bile on you tube.
Has it changed?

I would hope not.

 

[friedaweed]

 

[Firky]

Having caught up with those threads, I salute your kind and gentle soul. Impressive (genuinely, in case it looks like I'm being sarcy).

I read them, carried on - didn't want to get involved and then today when I saw 'The Indian' thing I thought, "you know what? Am going to say something because no one else has."

Thoroughly expected to get stick for it but I really don't see what is wrong in pulling someone up on somIething like that? Should we just accept Manter can use inappropriate phrases and show contempt for her junior staff or should we pull her up on it so (as she says herself) may learn from it / see a different perspective? It's not just confined to Manter though, it can be extended to other areas outside of the boards.

I was called an invalid the other day on these boards because I had cancer. I did not report it. I pulled the poster up on it and the problem was fixed, she accepted that the phrase was archaic and she was in the wrong. Are people suggesting we ignore that kind of thing? I had a moan about with it a couple of posters on this thread *waves* but that is all.

E2A: We came to a mutal agreement to delete our posts and shake hands. Job done.