Men - have you ever been sexually harrassed at work?

[littlebabyjesus]

Agreed. But it's not sexual harrassment.

I think there are fuzzy lines here. We can't get inside the mind of the person doing the staring. And sexual staring is a subset of aggressive staring in any case. To foist unwanted sexual attention upon someone is an act of aggression. In this work context, though, some sexual content does at least seem likely, no?

 

[Sue]

I think there are fuzzy lines here. We can't get inside the mind of the person doing the staring. And sexual staring is a subset of aggressive staring in any case. To foist unwanted sexual attention upon someone is an act of aggression. In this work context, though, some sexual content does at least seem likely, no?

I have no idea. Maybe it is, maybe she's socially awkward in general, who knows. Obviously any harassment is completely unacceptable though.

(I'm feeling particularly pissed off about this today tbh as I've just found out that someone I used to work with -- who seriously sexually harassed a young woman who reported to him over an extended period -- has just been massively promoted.)

 

[redsquirrel]

Interesting... Is the NDA related to stary-woman Petcha ?

They are pretty much standard in any settlement agreement these days. And sometimes are unlawful,

Petcha are you just being asked to sign an NDA or is the NDA part of a wider settlement agreement? I'm not clear

Winot is right if you are being asked to sign a settlement agreement you should be getting some money to have it signed off by a solicitor.

 

[izz]

They are pretty much standard in any settlement agreement these days. And sometimes are unlawful,
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Winot is right if you are being asked to sign a settlement agreement you should be getting some money to have it signed off by a solicitor.

That's good to know, being in the position of being asked to sign an NDA is hardly ideal but at least there are rules around these things nowadays, a small lurch forward perhaps.

 

[Petcha]

They are pretty much standard in any settlement agreement these days. And sometimes are unlawful,

Petcha are you just being asked to sign an NDA or is the NDA part of a wider settlement agreement? I'm not clear

Winot is right if you are being asked to sign a settlement agreement you should be getting some money to have it signed off by a solicitor.

The NDA would be part of the settlement agreement I think. They've brought in their global head of HR for the meeting on Monday. I'm inclined to just accept it but if I could push it a bit further... I'll think over the weekend

As to whether she's just socially awkward, no, not really. I had the misfortune of being on the same pub quiz team as her last week and she was chattering away with everyone. She's just really really weird (my exact words to my boss ) I mean she'll find any reason to come and sit next to me, closely. With printouts of my work. Which she's used a ruler to point out that something is a millimetre off. And then sit there watching me while I nudge a fucking text box around the screen.

Just weird.