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Feminism - where are the threads?

Arrgghhh.

Context, context, CONTEXT.

Incidentally I've just googled derp and I regret using that word now.
 
I felt like I need to ask permission - me being over cautious about posting here again. I don't want to just jump in and invade space, as it were.
 
I don’t think he’s claiming that.

He doesn't have to mate. He says a bunch of 'controversial' things then outlines free speech principles because he knows how people will react to what he's saying given it's bollocks :D Having the right to say stuff doesn't make it true but the way he's ordered the first few minutes of this vid is deliberate and very much supposed to encourage the viewer to agree with him.
 
Thanks edie

I'm still going through and questioning my views on stuff encompassing feminism and womens rights that keep changing with life experience. I don't know if I'll be great at discussing, but I think I'm ok at listening when trying to work out an informed and fair opinion - and appreciate dog whistle stuff that I've missed being pointed out.

I'm here for the feminism, whatever shape that takes, I suppose. Really glad that theres a thread with the word in its title that popped up.
 
I thought it interesting, I watched all of it but was interrupted by a call in the middle. His idea of the patriarchy is one quite a lot of men and women will agree with but not all.

provide procreate protect

Hmm ... :hmm:
 
Dear God Edie. I've got through 11.5 minutes so far and its nails down a chalkboard unbearable.

Even if we try and ignore the obvious charisma blackhole we are left with what he is saying. I know you don't have to have any qualifications to be teacher at a private school (or background checks) but I do wonder what his subject was? It ain't history or philosophy that's for sure.

He seems obsessed by conflict, violence and war. I also feel like I was being lectured on what masculinity is and what it is to being a man. His reality I do not recognise at all. I don't recognise his depicture of male-ness and when I think about my girlfriend I think he's talking about another species than her.

Fuck! I think I'm being mansplained by a unpleasant derp. This is what happens if you start with a conclusion and work back from there.
I’d like to reply to this but I’m not sure what to say. I dunno what a derp is and I’m not entirely sure what point you’re making. You don’t recognise his depiction of masculinity? You don’t think males dominate conflict and war cross culturally? Or you mean you individually aren’t like that (which is fair enough but kind of misses the point).
 
OK. Finished now. Its bizarre and frankly insulting to men. He traduces us and makes out we are little more than biology with no context and no agency at all. I don't think this man should be around young men at all so I'm glad he was sacked, if he was.

Sub Jordan Peterson tosh.
 
I thought it interesting, I watched all of it but was interrupted by a call in the middle. His idea of the patriarchy is one quite a lot of men and women will agree with but not all.

provide procreate protect

Hmm ... :hmm:
It made me wonder if I’d misunderstood the whole thing to be honest. I do fundamentally think that men should protect and provide for women and children, and that the biological role of women with respect to being pregnant and caring for small children makes us vulnerable and needing that. I also think predominantly women’s work (caring work) is undervalued and want to discuss that. That’s feminism for me, not arguing there are no biological differences between men and women.
 
OK. Finished now. Its bizarre and frankly insulting to men. He traduces us and makes out we are little more than biology with no context and no agency at all. I don't think this man should be around young men at all so I'm glad he was sacked, if he was.

Sub Jordan Peterson tosh.
Why do you find it insulting to men?
 
I’d like to reply to this but I’m not sure what to say. I dunno what a derp is and I’m not entirely sure what point you’re making. You don’t recognise his depiction of masculinity? You don’t think males dominate conflict and war cross culturally? Or you mean you individually aren’t like that (which is fair enough but kind of misses the point).

He's making out like its something inherent in us rather than something that is forced upon us. Sure, there are some guys who want to go brain each other for 12 rounds but for the rest of us it is a situation forced upon us.

His depiction of sport has no context at all. I think its pretty clear now that given the opportunity young girls want to play football. Want to play Rugby, hell even some women want to get into a boxing ring and fair play to them because I don't have the guts to do that.
 
Only 2 minutes in...

Challenging patriarchy and how those institutionalised & lived power dynamics negatively affect women's lives is not the same as 'rubbishing the very existence of men'. That's like saying talking about racism causes racism to exist. It's an excuse.
that is longer than I made it - maybe half a dozen flat out lies by that point, and the Christina Hoff Sommers quote plus the "comedy" cartoon made it very clear where all this was coming from
 
He's making out like its something inherent in us rather than something that is forced upon us. Sure, there are some guys who want to go brain each other for 12 rounds but for the rest of us it is a situation forced upon us.

His depiction of sport has no context at all. I think its pretty clear now that given the opportunity young girls want to play football. Want to play Rugby, hell even some women want to get into a boxing ring and fair play to them because I don't have the guts to do that.
Yes, he is saying it’s something inherent. Biological. That’s exactly what he’s saying. You disagree and think all gender is socially constructed?
 
He's using the classic MRA trope that men have had it much harder than women because war and violence. He then kinda goes on to elevate this as some sort of male burden. Billions and billions of young men have died in the most brutal and pointless way because of this reasoning.
I think arguing about whether men or women have had it harder is meaningless. There are clear disadvantages to being either man or woman, especially working class upper class much less so. I do appreciate your point tho that there’s a bit of a MRA flavour to it.
 
It made me wonder if I’d misunderstood the whole thing to be honest. I do fundamentally think that men should protect and provide for women and children, and that the biological role of women with respect to being pregnant and caring for small children makes us vulnerable and needing that. I also think predominantly women’s work (caring work) is undervalued and want to discuss that. That’s feminism for me, not arguing there are no biological differences between men and women.
How do you reconcile wanting equality for women in terms of pay etc with wanting men to provide for women and children?
 
Full disclosure...I couldn't watch past 4 mins or so where he was discussing men mostly doing the war stuff and had a black and white pic of a muscle-man solider up...it reminded me of the Athena poster I had up on my wall as a young teenager :D and just how innocent and naive my thinking was then. The idea of a big strong bloke being ideal because as I am a girl I needed protecting and cherishing that because of my gender I needed to conform to what the patriarchy told me my worth and qualities were. That there was no point in being or seeing things differently because things 'just are'.

For me that is the level of analysis in this vid Edie that of an adolescent, someone as we all were looking for answers, a sense of belonging and wanting to fit in. Sure there are biological differences and in context they will present commonalities in terms of what roles/responsibilities men and women assume. And of course our socialisation and experiences will influence the people we are/want to be. I am not sure in who's interests his position is though, most men I know don't want to be solely defined on the patriarchy/macho scale just as most women don't want to be defined by a scale that comprises everything men aren't supposed to be.

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I try to listen to women when I've looked at "gender critical" stuff; I try to avoid eg posie parker because reasons I cant put my finger on. The far right in the us are all over this, the links in england are definitely there too but in a slightly different context . I feel uncomfortable dismissing opinions without hearing then though, for obvious reasons.
 
Yes, he is saying it’s something inherent. Biological. That’s exactly what he’s saying. You disagree and think all gender is socially constructed?

Not entirely. The more people I meet the more it strikes me that we're a bunch of oddballs and trying to assign characteristics based upon gender or whatever is futile. I do agree that when we're young men we're a pushy fighty people (not all obvs) but I'd like to think we can move beyond the idea that its inherent because we need to protect the tribe and therefore our behaviour is OK.

Its one thing to react out of anger its another thing to think its OK because nature.
 
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