I had a lot of suggestions that were not possible.
changing your life
- Thread starter Awesome Wells
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I'm not responsible for what other people post. I can only ask questions. If that gets seen by a bunch of juvenile pricks as an invitation to behave like twats then so be it.So, you've gained a lot from starting this thread then?
madzone
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So, what is possible?
Are you really, truly surprised at the responses you got? No-one can wave a magic wand for you.
You asked where you can go to change your life, the answer is you don't go anywhere - it starts with you. It starts with attitude, focussing on the can instead of cannot.
Am I surprised that people on the internet can't have a conversation or answer a question without twisting what was said, resorting to ludicrous amounts of hyperbole or being abusive? No. Is it justified? no.
'It starts with attitude' - meaning what? Now this is entering into the world of self help guru rubbish. You sound like one of these silly yanks who spouts tired, meaningless cliches as platitudes. I said I don't want platitudes, they don't help anyone. What does focusing on can instead of cannot even mean? HOw does that even relate to real life if you can't even afford to pay to get to work? Do you suggest I show the bus driver a nice smile and ask him to focus on the can and the cannot as he asks me if i'm having a laugh?
madzone
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How come it's ok for you to be rude and aggressive but when other people do it you cry 'victim'?
Do you think you're the worst off person in the world or something? There's plenty of people who have had a shitty start in life or who have found themselves in utterly desperate situations and managed to change their lives for the better.
Why don't you move house so you could walk to work? Or cancel your internet subscription and pay for bus fares that way? Or sell the computer and buy a bike.
We jst don't understand how impossible it is for you do we?
madzone
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How come it's ok for you to be rude and aggressive but when other people do it you cry 'victim'?
Do you think you're the worst off person in the world or something? There's plenty of people who have had a shitty start in life or who have found themselves in utterly desperate situations and managed to change their lives for the better.
Why don't you move house so you could walk to work? Or cancel your internet subscription and pay for bus fares that way? Or sell the computer and buy a bike.
We just don't understand how impossible it is for you do we?
1. Cry victim? You're fucking joking right? Half this thread has been needlessly given over to abuse and you now have the gall to say this? You're having a fucking laugh! I guess it's ok for people to be rude to me, but when i turn around and tell someone to fuck off for calling me a 'douche' I'm behaving badly? You are kidding me!
2. Where did I ever say that I was the worst off person in the world? what an incredibly stupid comment. That's as ridiculous as equating expressing an interest in working for a decent organisation with wanting to play professional football. Show me exactly where I said i was the worst off ffs!
3. Why don't i move house? how on earth am I going to do that? I don't have a house to sell (assuming you could find a buyer these days, and then find somewhere else to buy with the profit!).
4. Why don't I stop paying for the internet? I haven't started.
5. Why don't I sell my PC? Apart from using it for other things, even if i had somewhere to sell it it's worth piss all. What would be the point of selling something I use a lot to make shit all money that would serve no purpose. Perhaps you've incorrectly assumed I operate a modern machine. You'd be wrong.
6. Despite the snide and sarcastic tone, which is completely unwarranted, given these sugeestions are utter impractical, no. you don't.
I've been trying to get a bike for ages. No one on freecycle (ironically) has one to give away and I can't afford one.
madzone
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Why would you have to own a house before you could move?
I rent and am on benefits, I've moved house loads of times.
BTW - you're responding to people's suggestions like they're asking you to chop your arms off
I have no idea how you would rent a place without money.
madzone
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So, where are you living now?
If you're living rent free with free internet connections why are you so skint?
Are you not entitled to housing benefit?
Meltingpot
Living in our pools we soon forget about the sea
Seconded.
Laney
Got Faith?
Bloody hell this thread makes me feel a hell of a lot better about myself, as I previously thought I was being fairly pathetic.
People here have offered you the best suggestions they can come up with not knowing you - it's not their fault they are apparently 'impossible'. You didn't start this thread, really, for ideas and advice, you started it to validate your opinion that your situation is hopeless.
Most people can't just walk into a 'decent organisation' or work that they really want to do - they have to work up, sometimes from the very bottom. I think half your problem is that you don't know what you want to do, but it's your job to work that out. Society isn't going to give you a free ride anywhere but there are plenty of people struggling through worse situations than yours.
You've got a cheek being so aggressive when everyone has gone out of their way to be sympathetic. Try some other forums and I'm sure you'll rethink your opinion of 'abuse'.
People here have offered you the best suggestions they can come up with not knowing you - it's not their fault they are apparently 'impossible'. You didn't start this thread, really, for ideas and advice, you started it to validate your opinion that your situation is hopeless.
Most people can't just walk into a 'decent organisation' or work that they really want to do - they have to work up, sometimes from the very bottom. I think half your problem is that you don't know what you want to do, but it's your job to work that out. Society isn't going to give you a free ride anywhere but there are plenty of people struggling through worse situations than yours.
You've got a cheek being so aggressive when everyone has gone out of their way to be sympathetic. Try some other forums and I'm sure you'll rethink your opinion of 'abuse'.
the button
out on the kocker
extra dry
Happy to be here
Hey Awesome, we would need some information about your 'dire situation'
1. age
2. location
3. qualifications
4. what you want to do job wise...ie 'I want a job in a design department'
5. living arrangements, at home, with friends, with partner, etc
Then maybe we could give you some solid advice.
I think to be honest, you are depressed and have a negative outlook on life.
1. age
2. location
3. qualifications
4. what you want to do job wise...ie 'I want a job in a design department'
5. living arrangements, at home, with friends, with partner, etc
Then maybe we could give you some solid advice.
I think to be honest, you are depressed and have a negative outlook on life.
Awesome, I think several people have offered practical solutions to your situation and you have chosen to dismiss every one of them. To be honest and I'm really not having a go, it sounds like you could do with a quick trip to your GP just to get some advice on depression. You would be surprised how it can manifest iself without the sufferer being aware. Hope you get yourself sorted one day.
smashthestate
wage slave
Yes, I was thinking similar. Hopefully a doc can help. You might even be able to get on incapacity benefit which will save you from the horrors of the job centre for a while.
When you're feeling more able to do things there are soem really good suggestions from people in this thread, so even if it seems like useless ridiculous suggestions now chances are at some point you might think otherwise.
Good luck.
When you're feeling more able to do things there are soem really good suggestions from people in this thread, so even if it seems like useless ridiculous suggestions now chances are at some point you might think otherwise.
Good luck.
I didn't say i lived rent free.So, where are you living now?
If you're living rent free with free internet connections why are you so skint?
Are you not entitled to housing benefit?
I'm skint because £60 a week has to cover everything from bank charges to food to rent to bus fare. I'm not entitled to HB.
I haven't said anything was anyone's fault. I have no idea what you are trying to say.
Please don't insult my intelligence by trying to justify abuse or by saying that it's ok in the context of other forums that may have even more appalling behaviour. There is no justification for posting insults to people on the basis that they have explained how your suggestion is not practical. That's just facile.
madzone
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Why aren't you entiteld to HB?
I used to help people file HB claims and there are people on here who have loads of knowledge of the benefit system. It may be that they/we can help you with a sucessful claim so that you can move nearer to somewhere with better opportunities for what you say you want to do.
I already claim that. I get no other help and have spent the last few months trying to find it hence the question. The doctors don't/can't help with anything that isn't pill related or curable.
madzone
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And on being asked about Incapacity benefit....
Those two togther come to more than £60 a week.
spanglechick
High Empress of Dressing Up
i'm sure you could get some cash in hand work in your village. Even if it's just a fiver a week it would make a huge difference, but more and you'd be able to buy a second hand bike.
you haven't said why you can't look for this kind of work - house cleaning / car washing / even baby-sitting. Informal and irregular maybe - but there is definately money to be made. Does your medical situation rule out certain kinds of work?
you haven't said why you can't look for this kind of work - house cleaning / car washing / even baby-sitting. Informal and irregular maybe - but there is definately money to be made. Does your medical situation rule out certain kinds of work?
extra dry
Happy to be here
And on being asked about Incapacity benefit....
Those two togther come to more than £60 a week.
I think Awesome has some major issues, I mean major issues with everything, ie 'if it is not handed to me on a plate it is not worth the effort..'
My grandfather used to cycle a 40 mile round trip just to find work...granted it was in 1950's but that kind of attitude and perseverance paid off in the end.
Did he cycle on a bike or the suggestion of a bike?
Where did I say I couldn't look for this work, and why have you assumed that I haven't?
