changing your life
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spanglechick
High Empress of Dressing Up
i've been there, though - i mean not in the countyside - perish the thought! - but in that mindset. you want a solution but all the ones being offered are wrong for you.
for me it was a symptom of my depression - and i wasn't able to make the changes i needed to make until i began to recover. and the advice on the thread is good advice. those are the options and they are difficult and unattractive in the short term, but they're the only ones that are going to result in the changes the op wants.
it's just from where he is, he can't take those unnatractive options - he wants there to be another way.
OP - you're not stupid. If there was another way that didn't seem insurmountably hard you'd be taking it already. You need to accept the unattractive options and find a way for you to get the strength to take them.
If that means cleaning houses to earn the bus fare to get into town to apply for better paid jobs - then that's the first step. If it means enrolling on a heavily subsidised course at the OU and accepting those house cleaning wages for the duration of your course - then that's the first step. But there is no first step that's completely pleasant.
for me it was a symptom of my depression - and i wasn't able to make the changes i needed to make until i began to recover. and the advice on the thread is good advice. those are the options and they are difficult and unattractive in the short term, but they're the only ones that are going to result in the changes the op wants.
it's just from where he is, he can't take those unnatractive options - he wants there to be another way.
OP - you're not stupid. If there was another way that didn't seem insurmountably hard you'd be taking it already. You need to accept the unattractive options and find a way for you to get the strength to take them.
If that means cleaning houses to earn the bus fare to get into town to apply for better paid jobs - then that's the first step. If it means enrolling on a heavily subsidised course at the OU and accepting those house cleaning wages for the duration of your course - then that's the first step. But there is no first step that's completely pleasant.
Johnny Canuck3
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I even gave you hairstyling advice, ffs.
spanglechick
High Empress of Dressing Up
fwiw - i knew mae ws talking about the op - hence my more sympathetic take on it.
Johnny Canuck3
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Well, if she wants to call him a douche, I'm all for it. I was doing similar, in euphemistic language.
BTW: I would sooner sleep on the streets than impose on other's good nature.
I do very much live day to day, although my long term finances are pretty healthy. Despite the attitude suggested here I am actually working to a Five year business plan that was carefully researched and plotted before leaving London. When I realised that property prices here had already gone stupid I decided that I wouldn't be buying for at least Four years. Looking more like Five years now, but essentially everything is going accordingly.
I chose to live the way I am living. Careful planning and very strict budgeting will get me exactly where I want to be by October 2010. I'll also get who I want - also! I am an arrogant twat full of self-belief. It's the way I was brought up. You can get whatever you want out of life if you're prepared to put in the effort. Luck helps of course, but ignoring the set-backs and continuing in the right direction is more important.
Those who know me best know I can be a bit of a chancer at times. However, they also know I generally get where, and what I want always
e2a; Despite living rough and homeless the telephone call and flight back to London was always an option. Always an option I was far to proud to take! Pride can be a bad thing sometimes.
Anyway, I'm looking forward to living rough and tough with fuck all money for another 18 months. I do actually enjoy it far more than sitting at a PC in a boring office.
Eva Luna
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Yeah good on ya Stanley.
I roughed it for a while too. Was better than my particular alternatives.
And those who sell out and half arse at life can suck my balls too, I missed out on everything due to growing up a prisoner in a fucking cell of despair, and now I cracked out of that and left everything behind, I am free to paint my blank canvas as I see fit. And if people dont like it they can get stuffed.
Its your life Awesome Wells - no-one's gonna give you what you need, but you can learn how to reach for it. Frightening thought, but also strangely liberating eh?
Stanley, William says you drink a lot of wine and live in a cave. Fantastic.
I roughed it for a while too. Was better than my particular alternatives.
And those who sell out and half arse at life can suck my balls too, I missed out on everything due to growing up a prisoner in a fucking cell of despair, and now I cracked out of that and left everything behind, I am free to paint my blank canvas as I see fit. And if people dont like it they can get stuffed.
Its your life Awesome Wells - no-one's gonna give you what you need, but you can learn how to reach for it. Frightening thought, but also strangely liberating eh?
Stanley, William says you drink a lot of wine and live in a cave. Fantastic.
maes
hello i was gone and now am somewhat back
Maybe you're right to be more sympathetic. I just get so frustrated with these people who come asking for help, then refuse to do anything, make any concessions, admit that there is any way out of their problem. It's so draining, I've encountered so many, & frankly I just can't be arsed any more. If they want to dig themselves into a hole & spend the rest of their lives complaining about it, then so be it.
Harsh words, though.
Eva Luna
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Thats fair enough mae, but I think some people need to be in that place for a period of time, and it doesnt bother me how long they stay in it. You have no right to give advice and expect the person to take it, because it pisses you off if they do not. Thats about you and your desires for him, which are not relevant. His problems are about him, and he is free to take or not take, just as you are free to offer advice or roll your eyes and split.
madzone
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Likelwise that's your take on the situation. I think it's fair enough for people to get pissed off when someone comes on and asks, 'How can I do this?' and then not only says that every suggestion made is unworkable, won't say why and does it repeatedly over an extensive length of time. I'm guilty of being sucked into this thread when I've been here with this particular person many, many times before. I should just ignore his threads really.
FridgeMagnet
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The Citizen's Wage - perfectly respectable idea...
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Stanley, William says you drink a lot of wine and live in a cave. Fantastic.
Actually been living in a luxury restored Moorish town house. I gave the cave over to a friend from Brighton. I do drink far to much red wine! Part of my cash strapped pilgrimage plan is to address that issue!
However, I have read about a town en route that has a free tap of red wine. DANGER! DANGER! DANGER!
Pingu
Credo
not just talking that talk but walking the walk (or occasionally possibly staggering the stagger) but respect.
I didn't poo poo anything. Perhaps if people learned to read instead of being insulting and stupid they might realise this. Unfortunately that's all some people want to do.
How, exactly?
I didn't ask anyone to give me anything. I asked for information. Obviously for some people that's more than they can take since their response shows nothing more than a lack of maturity.
madzone
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You've had lots of information
