changing your life
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1. Go to http://www.couchsurfing.com/ and find a couch to sleep on for a couple of days in your chosen town/city.
2. Walk there. Hitch a ride. Beg for the bus fare.
3. Stop fucking moaning and asking for advice if you're not going to listen to anyone. You read like a bunch of never ending excuses.
There have been plenty of times in my life that I've had to walk long miles to work before getting paid to buy a bike. There have also been plenty of times when I've sunk into depression and got stuck in a rut that seemed to be a total dead end at the time.
These days, if I ever sense I'm heading that way again I simply tell myself "something has to change". Change anything. Try anything. Just do something - it's the only way out.
2. Walk there. Hitch a ride. Beg for the bus fare.
3. Stop fucking moaning and asking for advice if you're not going to listen to anyone. You read like a bunch of never ending excuses.
There have been plenty of times in my life that I've had to walk long miles to work before getting paid to buy a bike. There have also been plenty of times when I've sunk into depression and got stuck in a rut that seemed to be a total dead end at the time.
These days, if I ever sense I'm heading that way again I simply tell myself "something has to change". Change anything. Try anything. Just do something - it's the only way out.
If I wasn't going to listen I wouldn't have replied ffs. Don't tell me I'm moaning just because people suggest things that aren't practical at all. It's fatuous to assume that just because you've suggested something it's automatically going to work. Insulting people and being rude isn't helpful is it?
madzone
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But only you know your circumstances AW. You have to forgive people if they make suggestions that aren't workable as you haven't been very clear about your particular situation. Fair enough, you say you don't want to go into too much detail but you can't then snap people's heads off when they make a suggestion that you think won't work.
If the situation really is as diffuclt as you say and there's no way it can be changed then maybe you should just accept your lot. Maybe yearning for the impossible will just make you unhappier.
What do you think you can change in your life that will take you a small step towards your goals? If it really is nothing then stop trying. You'll just piss yourself off.
Mind you I know people who have overcome seemingly insurmountable problems to gain the life they wanted.........
I haven't snapped anyone's head off for making a suggestion at all. How can you say that?
madzone
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Whatever.
if that's the best you can do in answer to a question then why are you here at all?
tom_craggs
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I think this is the best advice that can be given to be honest. As none of us know your exact situation it's hard to give advice that exactly fits your circumstance, I do however know that feel of being completely stuck and not knowing how to move on, and only wanting to do something I had some kind od passion for.
Here are the jobs I did to put together some money to try to make the changes Stanley is suggesting when I lived in Somerset: working in Little Chef, doing pot washing in my local Thai restaurant, worked in Safeway, packed cheese, pressed 2 buttons on a lathe in a metal factory for 12 hours a day, worked in a call centre, did the lowest grade admin job for my local council, did recycling/litter picking...and plenty more work which seemed pretty brainless and faceless...but sometimes you do not have a choice, it's a means to an end, a step towards something and is therefore all part of the changing process. In doing these jobs I actually met a few people and learnt a few things as well which as helped to shape my life afterwards, so none of the jobs I could call a waste of time or a write off.
You're a fucking idiot
When someone asks for advice at least speak from a position of knowledge of the subject.
To the original poster - I'm a graphic designer. Totally untrained - and now find myself in a fairly good position. It's completely feasible to get into the industry, if u have a wee bit of talent (albeit beginning at the bottom).
Are u in London? If so, drop me a PM and I can offer a few hints. Please dont listen to a drunk exile in Granada. His career path doesnt exactly seem to have gone too well.
keybored
Well done. You remember cat good.
That's good advice, as is Stanley's post you quoted. There's loads of good advice on this thread AW.
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Superb
Sadly, keypulse I can't be arsed reading the whole of the thread. Just the first post and the last post. You know. having a life n all. Stanley's idiotic comment about working with the UK's top designers would rile any actual graphic designer. He's a fucking fraud who knows nothing about what he speaks. His 'art' is even pretty shit tbh, so i doubt he worked with any of the top guys in my industry.
Anyway. Superb.
Anyway. Superb.
Poot
My wife thinks I work too hard
Actually, I think a lot of the advice that Stanley's given has been quite good. I don't know anything about graphic design, so that bit went over my head anyway, but Stan always strikes me as a bit of a gad-about doesn't-really-know-where-he'll-be-sleeping-tonight-or-where-the-next-meal-is-coming-from kind of guy. In fact, i always imagine him as the sort who would sleep on your couch for a couple of nights and still be there at Christmas (no offence Stan 
) And although this might wind people up, it's probably something that the op can learn from. Sometimes you have to take liberties.
What about the working from home that christonabike suggested? Yes, it's mind-bogglingly dull but you can watch Eastenders while you're doing it (or whatever you enjoy) and it's money in the bank to put towards travel to interviews etc.
There are loads of opportunities out there but you have to do something unpleasant to get to them, that's life, I'm afraid.
) And although this might wind people up, it's probably something that the op can learn from. Sometimes you have to take liberties. What about the working from home that christonabike suggested? Yes, it's mind-bogglingly dull but you can watch Eastenders while you're doing it (or whatever you enjoy) and it's money in the bank to put towards travel to interviews etc.
There are loads of opportunities out there but you have to do something unpleasant to get to them, that's life, I'm afraid.
And what do you base that theory on? Would it be, perchance, the way he loves to rave at every opportunity about his amazing life on these boards? Fuck - I barely use this site any more and even I know his life story. My instincts say this is a (new type of internet based) sociopathic Walter Mitty character, not someone who should be offering advice to lost young people.
Poot
My wife thinks I work too hard
Well, I don't know, obviously my knowledge is limited never having met SE (though I believe we're from the same small town, by bizarre coincidence) but he strikes me as quite brazen, which is possibly something the OP could learn from. That was the point I was trying to make.
Fair enough. I apologise for coming across as such a dickwad myself...
I agree with the philosophy of throwing caution to the wind, throwing a spanner in the works, thats how i live myself. It's just I dont quite think Stanley does that himself as much as he boasts about.
But yeh. I've never met him, so I should shut the fuck up. The next time someone comes on here though and suggests they might want a career being a slightly shitty street painter in Granada, hiding from their previous in the motherland, I'll be the first to offer advice. I know some of the top people in that industry of course.
madzone
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Is this your way of avoiding answering the question I asked?
You're just a jealous cunt because you know I've worked alongside the best graphic designers ever
You think you're good? I won awards and stuff.
If you read a top 10 list today of the most respected in London, I worked for at least 8 of them. There was a good reason they employed me.
Fuck off loser
Johnny Canuck3
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Originally Posted by Awesome Wells View Post
Where can you go to change your life? You know get help with actually getting a decent job and stuff. People want you to 'earn a living' (which actually if you think about it is a horrible concept), but when you try and get yourself moving forward you get stymied by a complete lack of support from society and state it seems.
I know Awesome, really the government should just have a 'Free money hand out' center in every village, town and city.
Bit like a job center but without any of that bullshit about getting off you arse and looking for a job or trying to get out of the bed in morning.
If I where the prime minister I would set up these centers all over the country, giving out say 300 or 400 pounds a day to people like you Awesome who can't be fucking arsed pulling their socks up using the organ called a brain and doing something for themselves.
You really need someone to hold your hand every step of the way? If you can't at least get a positive attitude your going to stuck in a shitty place with a shitty future.
Who are you going to hold responsible...every other fucker who tried to help you...you need to get out of your 'I m so alone...no one helps me...I can't do it...mummy...mummy..the world is so cruel...'
Don't worry this board again till at least you have an interview for a job...
Where can you go to change your life? You know get help with actually getting a decent job and stuff. People want you to 'earn a living' (which actually if you think about it is a horrible concept), but when you try and get yourself moving forward you get stymied by a complete lack of support from society and state it seems.
I know Awesome, really the government should just have a 'Free money hand out' center in every village, town and city.
Bit like a job center but without any of that bullshit about getting off you arse and looking for a job or trying to get out of the bed in morning.
If I where the prime minister I would set up these centers all over the country, giving out say 300 or 400 pounds a day to people like you Awesome who can't be fucking arsed pulling their socks up using the organ called a brain and doing something for themselves.
You really need someone to hold your hand every step of the way? If you can't at least get a positive attitude your going to stuck in a shitty place with a shitty future.
Who are you going to hold responsible...every other fucker who tried to help you...you need to get out of your 'I m so alone...no one helps me...I can't do it...mummy...mummy..the world is so cruel...'
Don't worry this board again till at least you have an interview for a job...
Why have you highlighted that portion of the text? Is it so you can enter into a facetious, sarcastic and totally disproportionate rant in an attempt to try and equate what i said with 'free money' hand outs?
That's as silly as equating it to wanting to be a premiership footballer.
That's as silly as equating it to wanting to be a premiership footballer.
meaning?Would you like a little help wiping your ass, too?
what question?
Yup....that's it...nail on the head Awesome....now run along to the job center or get hold a local paper, the internet (job websites) and get on with 'changing your life'...
madzone
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I think you use threads like this to enable you to feel picked on, thus allowing you to stay exactly where you are because it's 'not your fault'
*pop psychology over*
Agent Sparrow
the age of slippers and migraines
It takes hard work and some sacrifices. Unfortunately due to the unequality of society, it takes some people more work and more sacrifice. Resultantly it's not surprising some people get put off the whole idea.
Tbh, from reading the thread I think the best options are seeing what financial help the OU can give to people on benifits, or doing the crappy day job/night school option. I know you've poo pooed those options, but unfortunately you might not have many more choices, and will have to bite the bullet and do some things you don't want to do. Happy to be corrected if anyone else has any other ideas, but I can't think of any.
madzone
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Nice post AS
I like the point about maybe having to do things we don't want to do. Isn't that just life? How many of us like what we do 100%? I know I don't. It seems we feel (in this culture) that we have some kind of right to do what we want to do.
Sorry - bit of a derail but it's something I notice in the 'yoof of today' and increasingly in adults as well.
I like the point about maybe having to do things we don't want to do. Isn't that just life? How many of us like what we do 100%? I know I don't. It seems we feel (in this culture) that we have some kind of right to do what we want to do.
Sorry - bit of a derail but it's something I notice in the 'yoof of today' and increasingly in adults as well.
Johnny Canuck3
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Meaning, what exactly is it you expect the 'state', etc, to do to further your interests?
