Poor, poor child. Poor adult who was shot - and all their families.
EricJarvis: Actually, I think people learn most from what they feel, not from what they see, and in my experience, from contact with young people involved in gang crime and other anti-social behaviour, I would say that it isn't in general the children of the working-stressed who grow up in this way. Those children understand what it is to value your life enough to work hard for it, even if it still results in poverty. It isn't poverty alone, either.
It is the children from families who have never allowed them to feel that their lives, their pain, their future is worth a shit. The children who wake to find Mum is still out (Dad was maybe never there, or only to be violent) and there is no breakfast in the fridge and they must make it to school alone. Again. The children whose parents knock them about, don't care if they are distressed, treat them as if they never wanted them.
Children who see parents working hard to support them KNOW that that is because their lives are valued and worked for.
There was an article in one of the colour supplements last weekend in which a convicted muderer (bottled someone who 'looked' at him) was asked if he felt any guilt or remorse. No, he didn't. His response was why should he? No-one had ever shown any remorse for anything done to him.
I agree about the need for peer 'respect', but think the problems start at a level more serious than stress and low income.
And still plenty of young people manage to grow and develop despite horrifically damaging upbringings - not fair of any of us to assume a self-fulfilling prophesy and project a prejudiced view onto any of our young people. (not saying you have done that - a general point)