I agree there are some real issues at play here, for sure. But... where do you draw the line? Do you make everyone have to tidy their desks up at the end of every day so they are completely clear? Some people work better with having stacks of papers around them and why should they be told to work differently?
I think that having a positive and relaxed atmosphere is more important than worrying about a few untidy desks. I think that people working in and visiting the office are more likely to notice, and respond more positively to, a relaxed and positive atmosphere, than they would react negatively to a few untidy desks.
I agree that respect for all is important but I don't think that the office manager gives us the respect we deserve. They treat the office like an extension of their house. In certain aspects that can be commendable but it can be a bit much when lots of people have to work here.
I think that treating staff more like children can become a self fulfilling prophecy and that seems to be what has happened here.