Thankfully all my friends are doing the right thing, it's 1 member of our family who is flaunting instruction and is one of the ones who should be adhering to it stringently, i.e. and as I posted in the general chat, our niece, she's 27 so not a kid, is moving between where she lives with my mother in law who is 79 nearly 80 and has serious underlying health conditions, very serious, but the cretin of a niece is moving from the home to her boyfriends and back every cpl/few days. She has a frosty relationship with her Ma who also lives in the house and has been saving to move out/in with her boyfriend, but that's some time away now. So we know her predicament but FFS.
We got hold of her y/day briefly but it was cut short and we've not been able to get through to her since. My wife is in tears about it, her Mum has a pulmonary and heart condition. I am both anxious and so infuriated of the selfishness, we even suggested she come and stay with us for the duration but she absolutely has to stay in 1 place. Sadly we have no idea what else to do