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baldrick

baldrick

hmmmmm
anyone else suffer from this?

someone on my team irritates me immensely.

this is compounded by her asking me to do a load of photocopying at 4pm last night (i go home at 5 and have my own work to finish), and just now her asking me to put away some equipment she used for a meeting.

how do i tell her to fuck off with these requests politely?
 
"I'm happy to help, even though it's not in my role to, providing it doesn't distract me from my responsibilities and cause a problem with my line manager / supervisor. Will it wait until I've finished this off?"

edit: Dislike of a colleague that pulled stunts like that is not irrational. :)
 
Nothing irrational about it - my colleagues are either evil incarnate or so lacking of backbone it's pathetic to watch them fumble and grovel and ... ugh.

Perfectly rational in my mind.
 
lighterthief said:
I hate people who are casually arrogant like that.

If you simply said 'no', what would happen?
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not a lot i imagine, she'd do it herself, probably. i need to stop saying yes to requests, it's like a pavlovian response. i don't give myself time to think about whether i have time or not, i just say yes to bloody everything.

if she asked me nicely, i wouldn't have a problem.
 
baldrick said:
she is, but i don't work 'for' her, iyswim.

i think she reckons i'm just the dogsbody :(
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"Of course I'm happy to help, but can I just check with my line manager what the time scale is for work for them so that it won't stop me completing on time"

:)
 
no such thing as an irrational dislike of anyone imo, if you don't like someone there's usually a reason, even if you can't find the evidence to back it up.
 
aqua said:
"Of course I'm happy to help, but can I just check with my line manager what the time scale is for work for them so that it won't stop me completing on time"

:)
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i'm not happy to help, that's the problem!

I just don't want to do stuff for her if she's not going to ask me nicely. I don't work for her, but she treats me like i do. i think i'm just gonna go with pieeye's suggestion: "I don't have time, sorry."
 
Just do whatever she asks really, really badly. Make sure you miss half the page when photocopying. Tidy things away by dumping them in her office bin.
 
next time you find yourself having said 'yes' and feeling pissed off instead of doing it, send an email saying 'sorry, i'm really busy and don't have time at the moment, when I get time i'll do it but in the meantime i've left it on your desk'?

btw it is not irrational to hate rude lazy idiots who think they are more important than you
 
mattie said:
Just do whatever she asks really, really badly. Make sure you miss half the page when photocopying. Tidy things away by dumping them in her office bin.
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depends how much of a cunt the person really is- she might go as far as to show Balders how to do the task properly if he does it badly on purpose.


which is galliing IME
 
DotCommunist said:
depends how much of a cunt the person really is- she might go as far as to show Balders how to do the task properly if he does it badly on purpose.


which is galliing IME
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Annoy them to the point they have to demonstrate, repeat it back and fuck it up in front of them. You could set the photocopier to print it out on A2, for example. Or put everything away in the wrong place. Or drop it on her head from the top shelf. The possibilities are endless.

The key is to make sure she reaches the point of futility before you do.

This is only truly effective if she has no real authority over you, as she'll think that you're either a half-wit or taking the piss. Neither good for career prospects.
 
Ooh, I have a couple of these.

One is rational - it's a guy who I am senior to, but he has massive self importance; he does that swaggering walk that always irritates, and he always rushes up and demands immediate attention, like his thing is the most crucial. And he absolutely loves to be able to tell people what to do whenever he can, assuming a completely boss-like attitude in order to request you print a page of something for him, and you can tell he's loving it. He issues the command, and then a pause, and then 'Please'! at the end, to accentuate it. FUCKOFF!

There's another which is completely an utterly irrational, and it's just because the poor guy smells funny. He makes my skin crawl, and just the thought of him makes me very nauseous. It's the smell of old people and death. The smell of badly disguised piss and some chemical that i can't quite identify, that you get in old people's homes. Brrr! :oops: :(
 
There was one girl in a previous job that I really detested. She was the senior secretary there and used to do things like walk past the photocopy machine to a junior and hand them a one page document to photocopy. I once had an argument with her and she said that she would go to the boss. Like he would care about our argument. It was like being in primary school all over again. She was a nasty piece of work.

In another job where I worked in France, this French girl used to ask me to draft these long emails in English and then she would take credit for the work. I really hate that.

Luckily there's no one I dislike in my current job.
 
uuuurrrrrgh :mad:

she's just done it again! dumped a projector by my desk and said 'can you put this away for me?' and walked off.

i hate her. i want to stab her in the face with something sharp :(
 
Everyone I work with is very decent and competent, we've been together as a team for many years, been through a few redundacies/takeovers.

The only thing that prevents us from doing our work any better is the company itself, and its stupid processes and insistence in giving us more work when we've got enough already.
 
It can be difficult saying no, sometimes. You're worried you'll sound petty. But you need to do it. And you need to speak to her face to face.

It's tempting to go and speak to your manager about it, or drop an email. But you should deal with it in person, yourself.

Wait for a quiet moment (not when you're wound up), ask her for a minute in private, hold your nerve and just say it: "I'm not trying to be awkward, but I'm uncomfortable with you regularly giving me work to do which is not part of my job, for example <insert two or three examples here> and, with respect, I'd like you to stop."

Incidentally, it's not irrational in the slightest. This person is 'in the wrong', not you.
 
Baldrick, it may be that she actually genuinely thinks you are there to assist her. Perhaps you need to clarify this with your manager. I had been in my current post for ages before it transpired that my colleague thought he was my manager and I was his assistant, which is not the case.
 
I think you may just have to start delegating these jobs to somebody else.

And this person could then delegate them straight back to her.
 
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