A lot of these 'labels' are just words for things that would naturally have always had words except, historically, we haven't talked about them.People are always going to invent labels for things and if it helps someone feel less alone why not tbh.
I don’t care about other people’s sexuality. In 99.999% of my interactions with people sex isn’t going to be an issue so why should it be any of my business what they choose to do or who they choose to do it with?
Have we learned nothing from the way LBGT people have been, and still are In many places, stigmatised by people who think they have a right to know about , and control other people’s sexuality?
I get that, but once you have 20 flags out there it becomes meaningless to anybody trying to keep track. When nobody knows what your flag means, it's meaningless. I'm all for the people of color inclusion as an addition to the traditional LGBT+ flag and can wrap my the trans flag, but do we really need a polyamorous, etc flag ? As a gay man I always thought we were more free to define our relationships along non-traditional lines anyway. Once you basically indicate to your parents that you like sucking cock once you come out to them, negotiating a non-monogamous relationship with a partner should be a doddle. So do we really need a flag for every different relationship variation ? Its the LGBT+ bigots who don't understand and aren't represented by the spirit of the rainbow flag and creating new flags is in opposition of its meaning.
The irony is that who in this case now regards themselves as a sexual minority, is what my generation was taught is what we should all be like.Someone close to me is "Demi-sexual" I think, or one of the Asexual subsets. the way they explain it is they do enjoy sex, but they are not generally attracted to people off the bat in the way that seemingly (but probably not) lots of people are, but also they experience it in the relationship too. I think they've always felt different in regards to how they feel about sex and how it happens for most people. For example won't really think about it unless someone else instigates it. It's just not there otherwise even though enjoy it.
What I do know is this was comforting for them and made them feel less alone. It explained a little bit that there is not something wrong with them and it seems to much up with what they experience. I think that's okay.
there is a difference between people being equal and expecting everyone to be the same
equality is about putting a ramp entrance at a public building so that wheelchair users can get in. treating everyone the same is about letting everyone use the same set of stairs
so to avoid being stigmatised / discriminated against, LGBT people should just shut up and stay in the closet?
This ties into my feeling that a lot of people, especially younger ones, are identifying as 'non-binary' not because they have a profound sense that they are of neither sex (and I think this is a genuine thing for a very small number of people) but as a political statement that they don't like gender stereotypes, which is not the same thing. I was very taken by a quote I saw somewhere that to the effect that declaring yourself non-binary in the way a lot of people seem to is to declare that gender rules don't apply to you, which is fine for you, but it would be more of a statement to declare that you are female but you know you don't have to be like this or that in order to be female. That would actually challenge gender stereotypes more than a declaration that you are neither male nor female. Obviously, one's identity doesn't have to, and indeed, shouldn't have to have a 'purpose' beyond you, but the political way NB is being used, I think that was a good point. You're just saying that you're an exception, not changing or challenging anything about the stereotypes. But I don't know, maybe among the kids being NB as a political statement is seen as just fine, it's just my feeling was it was supposed to apply to a profound sense of genderlessness.
This ties into my feeling that a lot of people, especially younger ones, are identifying as 'non-binary' not because they have a profound sense that they are of neither sex (and I think this is a genuine thing for a very small number of people) but as a political statement that they don't like gender stereotypes, which is not the same thing. I was very taken by a quote I saw somewhere that to the effect that declaring yourself non-binary in the way a lot of people seem to is to declare that gender rules don't apply to you, which is fine for you, but it would be more of a statement to declare that you are female but you know you don't have to be like this or that in order to be female. That would actually challenge gender stereotypes more than a declaration that you are neither male nor female. Obviously, one's identity doesn't have to, and indeed, shouldn't have to have a 'purpose' beyond you, but the political way NB is being used, I think that was a good point. You're just saying that you're an exception, not changing or challenging anything about the stereotypes. But I don't know, maybe among the kids being NB as a political statement is seen as just fine, it's just my feeling was it was supposed to apply to a profound sense of genderlessness.
Big CottonI reckon the vast majority of people who feel they fit into one of these categories would never give a shit about having a flag anyway. It's just something that's pushed by vested interests in the calico industry.
Fuck, what a load of shite. A collection of just about every gender stereotype going. Poisonous drivel imo.Found a gender role test online.
So not the same as this sexuality stuff, but in a related arena.
This is me:
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Am inclined to think this is a big pile of shite.
Also wonder what the remaining 1% is...
What a load of bollocks.
Fuck, what a load of shite. A collection of just about every gender stereotype going. Poisonous drivel imo.
Not saying I didn't do it. That's how I know what the questions were. But I could have predicted about 95% of them, and I could predict the presumed 'gender' of each I reckon by 100% accuracy.Inclined to agree, but answering a few questions to get some kind of graph is popular round these parts.
There seems to be a lot of research in this general area. Doesn't seem like a good use of grant money, especially when the underlying framework seems to be built on 1950s USA stereotypes.
Not saying I didn't do it. That's how I know what the questions were. But I could have predicted about 95% of them, and I could predict the presumed 'gender' of each I reckon by 100% accuracy.
Found a gender role test online.
I see 'gender critters'...
As for the stuff in Cloo's OP, it just makes me feel very old because I find it quite impenetrable and it seems to create more 'boxes' than we could alternatively free ourselves from - there's seems to be some conflation of what is actually personality/character traits? with trying to define terms of sexuality, gender, etc.
Fuck, what a load of shite. A collection of just about every gender stereotype going. Poisonous drivel imo.
Like probably half of the world, but then there's always someone that tells everyone they are special and one of the really rare types.
I'd expect an ISFJ to say that.
Oh it clearly seeks to represent itself as scientific, hence the list of references underneath:At least it's brief and trivial enough not to be mistaken for anything remotely scientific, unlike far more widespread and far more damaging voodoo bullshit like Myers-Briggs.
References
This test was constructed on the basis of the following studies:
- Donnelly & Twenge: Masculine and Feminine Traits on the Bem Sex-Role Inventory, 1993–2012: a Cross-Temporal Meta-Analysis (Sex Roles 0360-0025 2016)
- Holt & Ellis: Assessing the Current Validity of the Bem Sex-Role Inventory (Sex Roles Volume 39, Issue 11-12 1998)
- Lee & Kashubeck-West: Factor Structure of the Bem Sex Role Inventory in Samples of Ethnically Diverse Young Adults in the U.S. (Journal of Asia Pacific Counseling 2015)
- Robinson, Shaver & Wrightsman (eds.): Measures of Personality and Social Psychological Attitudes: Measures of Social Psychological Attitudes (Academic Press 2013)
Oh it clearly seeks to represent itself as scientific, hence the list of references underneath: