brix said:Wave that willy
Only if I'm gonna get something out of it
brix said:Wave that willy
No, just that 12 months of full pay off work will not help those who need the most assistance. Especially when the law already gives all women over 9 months (39 weeks) maternity pay.Blagsta said:So you think that forcing people to put their kids into nursery at 3 months is a good thing? .
Yes, but many secure babies also grow up to be insecure teenagers and vice-versa.Blagsta said:Insecure babies become insecure teenagers.
I don't disagree with any of that, but as Black Brits, if we continue to wait for someone else, usually the government to solve our problems, to give us a reason to feel useful and validated as you say, instead of dealing with it ourselves,then we are in for a VERY LONG WAIT indeed.Blagsta said:Indeed, women are not forced to become pregnant. However, you're ignoring the psychological aspect to this. Becoming pregnant at a young age is a way of feeling useful, validated, giving your life some meaning, getting some love. Why do you thing the teenage pregnancy rate is higher in deprived areas? .
Blagsta said:Improving education, giving young people's lives meaning is what is needed, it
has nothing to do with access to contraception, or "control" over who you sleep with. These psychological processes are largerly unconscious.
Mind said:No, just that 12 months of full pay off work will not help those who need the most assistance. Especially when the law already gives all women over 9 months (39 weeks) maternity pay.
Mind said:Yes, but many secure babies also grow up to be insecure teenagers and vice-versa.
Apart from the reasons I stated above, I just don't think the decision to wield a gun aged 14 depends on whether your mother had 12 months full maternity pay.
Mind said:I don't disagree with any of that, but as Black Brits, if we continue to wait for someone else, usually the government to solve our problems, to give us a reason to feel useful and validated as you say, instead of dealing with it ourselves,then we are in for a VERY LONG WAIT indeed.
Mind said:Whether you like it or not, as a woman I can tell you that access to contraception can make or break you. Nothing changes your life in quite the same way as having a baby. Men can walk away from kids a helluva lot more easily than women can that's for sure.
Mind said:While improving education sounds like a great place to start, it won't matter if there are high levels of truancy, and of those who turn up a small percentage do not want to learn and are able to disrupt or distract classes for the rest, which was my general feeling when I was a school governor.
Mind said:It also sounds a bit empty when those who have access to free education, free healthcare, and in many cases free housing complain that they don't have enough, when hundreds of thousands of people around the world risk their lives to get here just so they can have a tiny bit of what we dismiss, simply because some wealthy person in Kensington has so much more.
Mind said:Personally I can't think of a single example where any government succeeded in giving people's lives meaning. People and communities tend to get on with it and do it for themelves while the government plays catch up. Not the other way round.
Citizen66 said:I'm aware that Gambians listen to music from the Senegal like Yousoou N'dour but that doesn't escape the fact that they will also listen to gangsta rap. I'm not making this up I am speaking from experience.
Yossarian, I see you are familiar with the sweet smell of bullshit.Yossarian said:You've never even been there, have you?
I realised he was talking out of his ass and will not respond to him anymore.Citizen66 said:I'm aware that Gambians listen to music from the Senegal like Yousoou N'dour