Lilmisshissyfit -
Take what you mean about the stoodies not getting to experience the real Swansea because of the town/gown split (although I got mates with plenty of Swansea folk when I was studying there), but I still think Swansea's a great place...
You say you don't like the small-town/villagey small-mindedness of it all. I grew up in a depressingly insular, grey, and shitty Welsh small-town/village that wasn't amazingly situated on a gorgeous sweeping bay with lovely hills nearby along with the even more gorgeous coast on the Gower.
Believe me, I'd take Swansea over Llantwit Fardre any day.
Oh, and nobody's mentioned one of the most delicious things to come out of Swansea (Catherine Zeta, excluded, like):
Joe's Ice Cream!!!