Steel Icarus
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Nah, ignoring the thread now. My opinion on this is clearly not going to be valid, and I can think of better things to do than trying to converse with people who are always right.
Should parents be able to post up pictures of their kids without permission?
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Shechemite
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FridgeMagnet
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Definitely needs to be a law against that
also pets as profile picsI use my pet so ha. Like I say, I don’t like putting photos of myself online.Definitely needs to be a law against that
FridgeMagnet
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nope, sorry, jail for you
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hiraethified
On a related note, I just had an email demanding I take down a photo that included a child in a park. Normally I have no problem with such requests, but this one is really taking the piss:
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I've removed it anyway but it seems a bit over the top when the child is completely unrecognisable.
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I've removed it anyway but it seems a bit over the top when the child is completely unrecognisable.
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hiraethified
I posted it here for debate. It has been stripped of all its context so I'd say it's highly unlikely the person objecting would see it, and as the child is clearly unrecognisable I fail to see your point.
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hiraethified
That wasn't the reason given.
What kid?
5t3IIa
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ice-is-forming
I was born naked, shameless & fucking outrageous..
I was thinking about this the other day. I often read the sofa thread, but very rarely contribute. It feels a bit voyeuristic 
but still it's comforting like a familiar soap opera, and I feel happy and sad for people as events unfold. It's also both interesting and often hilarious..
So I was wondering why it is that I don't contribute to it, and realised that it's very much to do with not talking about my kids online. Don't get me wrong, I've definitely posted about my kids trials and tribulations on here but it doesn't feel right to do it anymore. Not because they're adults now, but just because my own values have changed. I've grown to place a higher value on my privacy, so i have more respect for theirs. Tbh I wish I'd reached this conclusion sooner.
If I had more integrity I wouldn't read about other peoples kids on here either.
Each to their own though
and i hope that the details of our children shared on urban or elsewhere, never come back to haunt us.
but still it's comforting like a familiar soap opera, and I feel happy and sad for people as events unfold. It's also both interesting and often hilarious..So I was wondering why it is that I don't contribute to it, and realised that it's very much to do with not talking about my kids online. Don't get me wrong, I've definitely posted about my kids trials and tribulations on here but it doesn't feel right to do it anymore. Not because they're adults now, but just because my own values have changed. I've grown to place a higher value on my privacy, so i have more respect for theirs. Tbh I wish I'd reached this conclusion sooner.
If I had more integrity I wouldn't read about other peoples kids on here either.
Each to their own though
and i hope that the details of our children shared on urban or elsewhere, never come back to haunt us.
5t3IIa
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SpookyFrank
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klang
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I totally get that, and I've always been very careful with posting stuff about my baby. Covid changed that for me. With lockdown there are no baby groups, no hanging out with other parents, no support. This place is literally the only place where more experienced parents can give advice or just lend an ear. I'm very grateful for that, there are so many unknowns for first timers with a lockdown baby.I was thinking about this the other day. I often read the sofa thread, but very rarely contribute. It feels a bit voyeuristic
So I was wondering why it is that I don't contribute to it, and realised that it's very much to do with not talking about my kids online. Don't get me wrong, I've definitely posted about my kids trials and tribulations on here but it doesn't feel right to do it anymore. Not because they're adults now, but just because my own values have changed. I've grown to place a higher value on my privacy, so i have more respect for theirs. Tbh I wish I'd reached this conclusion sooner.
If I had more integrity I wouldn't read about other peoples kids on here either.
Each to their own though
I edit photos out after a few hours.
Very few of my son and I don't think they're available now I have shutdown my account. Very few if any of my daughter that we may may have put on. There was a closed page for her class where they post pictures of the kids doing school shit. We didn't really want then to have a massive digital footprint before they understood what it meant.
kebabking
Not a Girly Swot, but I like them....
I put pictures here of my kids doing stuff, but not with their faces showing, and I've (I'm pretty sure) never put their names on here whether with a picture or not, nor have I ever given name/location of their school or the name of village we live in.
For me the reasoning is an amalgam of things - I don't think I own their image, even if I'm responsible for it, and given their ages they can't give informed consent for publication. I'm also hugely wary of sending out my child's name, picture, location and school to every nonce on the internet...
We don't put our kids names or faces on our Facebook feeds for the same reasons - though we have a closed Facebook group of close family where we do.
And no, I would be very unhappy about other people taking, or sharing, pictures of my children. There is, of course, a difference between a picture of a public space that happens to have my children in it, and a picture of my children that happens to be in a public space - although it seems that not everyone is able to navigate that admittedly rather nuanced concept, even if to me it's blindingly obvious...
For me the reasoning is an amalgam of things - I don't think I own their image, even if I'm responsible for it, and given their ages they can't give informed consent for publication. I'm also hugely wary of sending out my child's name, picture, location and school to every nonce on the internet...
We don't put our kids names or faces on our Facebook feeds for the same reasons - though we have a closed Facebook group of close family where we do.
And no, I would be very unhappy about other people taking, or sharing, pictures of my children. There is, of course, a difference between a picture of a public space that happens to have my children in it, and a picture of my children that happens to be in a public space - although it seems that not everyone is able to navigate that admittedly rather nuanced concept, even if to me it's blindingly obvious...
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Well it's hard to debate in that case, but there are plenty of scenarios where someone might prefer not to be seen to be somewhere, at sometime or with someone.
I'm not saying that you were wrong to take the pic or to put it up or that you're obliged to take the photo down. Just pointing out that there are valid reasons why someone might request removal even if it's not a close up.
They've seen it.
It was us who wrote to you. Quite politely, I might add.
As you well know, that is a crop of a larger image and is not the only one you posted featuring our son.
As you also know, our attention was drawn to the post by our neighbour, who recognised him.
Bloody shame on you.
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hiraethified
Not quite. I got a message saying photos of your children had been taken without her permission, adding that she wasn't happy about it.
I don't need permission to take photos of people in public places and I don't like the insinuation that I've done something wrong in doing so.
However, as a courtesy, I immediately took both photos down as requested even though the child is quite clearly completely unrecognisable in both images.
But I'll remove this one too, while retaining my opinion that the reaction is completely over the top.
I think it is a discussion worth having though - I may be completely wrong after all - and that's why I posted up a context-stripped image here. I'm sorry you took offence at that too,
To which you received the clarifying response "I’m not disputing the legality, just stating my discomfort with our being photographed and featured on a public website without prior knowledge."
Why such an obsession with point-scoring and your own sense of rectitude? Let's draw this to a close. I couldn't give a hoot about your opinion on our family choices.
klang
klang
what family did you choose in the end?
platinumsage
HaveMyPassword123
Why would you experience discomfort, rather than say, mild surprise? Discomfort implies something untoward has happened. Did you really think that all those people in photos such as this one in the Daily Mail are normally contacted and informed of their appearance prior to publication?
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