Should parents be able to post up pictures of their kids without permission?

[Shechemite]

Because posting anything like beliefs in one's own name can damage job prospects.

I have fuck all job prospects

 

[Shechemite]

I have fuck all job prospects

Can’t think of any job I have had mind where my social media postings have come up. Not sure why they’d be a problem anyway.

 

[weltweit]

I have fuck all job prospects

Sorry to read that.

I have fb and twitter accounts in my real name which has put a bit of a dampner on my enjoyment of them.

 

[Shechemite]

Sorry to read that.

Ah fuck em. Got one life. Not going to waste it feeling sad.

 

[weltweit]

Can’t think of any job I have had mind where my social media postings have come up. Not sure why they’d be a problem anyway.

Employers are sometimes checking online personas, especially if they are obvious, same name and perhaps photos, and it can affect their views on a person. I wouldn't like some rash online content of mine to lose me a role.

 

[weltweit]

And for that matter, when I can work out who I am going to be interviewed by I always check their LinkedIn profile so I know 1) who I am dealing with and 2) some hints at suitable small talk that might keep them interested.

 

[Shechemite]

And for that matter, when I can work out who I am going to be interviewed by I always check their LinkedIn profile so I know 1) who I am dealing with and 2) some hints at suitable small talk that might keep them interested.

That’s understandable. But I’ve never been to able to work in roles where a LinkedIn profile (to my knowledge) would be relevant. I’ve managed to work in roles that are either low wage (retail, childcare) or are reserved for ‘people like me’ (eg paid ‘user-involvement’ oporutnities).

My life chances will change when we change society. It’s harder to change society when you’re hiding.

 

[weltweit]

.. It’s harder to change society when you’re hiding.

I do plenty of hiding.

 

[Steel Icarus]

Tbh this is a ridiculous thread with a daft premise. You don't want to post pics if your kids or yourself, don't. But fuck if you can tell me whether I can put photos of my kids where I like. You silly fucking twats.

 

[Steel Icarus]

No doubt editor will be along shortly to tell me why him taking photos of strangers for money is perfectly fine but me putting a pic of one of my kids on his website for free contravenes some sort of human right

 

[editor]

But fuck if you can tell me whether I can put photos of my kids where I like. You silly fucking twats.

Except NOBODY is telling you that. Literally NO ONE.

 

[editor]

No doubt editor will be along shortly to tell me why him taking photos of strangers for money is perfectly fine but me putting a pic of one of my kids on his website for free contravenes some sort of human right

I've really no idea where you're going with this. Who is "taking photos of strangers for money" (unless you mean all commercial photographers, everywhere - and even then there are laws about the use of such photos) and what has it to do with the original article that started this thread?

 

[Glitter]

The thing about facebook is that if you have public settings you have no idea who may have been looking at them, and could have made copies if they were that way inclined.

Why would it matter if someone has looked at them?

 

[weltweit]

Why would it matter if someone has looked at them?

Sometimes it does matter as I am sure you have the imagination to think of, for example where an abusive husband is trying to find out where his ex-wife and kids have gone to, or where a paedo looks at someone''s kids on fb as part of stalking them etc ..

 

[Don Troooomp]

My wife does this, but her IG followers are pretty much all family with a few parents from my Daughter's school so it's hardly a concern either way. I have also done it, but my IG is for work so it's pretty formal(ish) most of the time - She poses for photos with a painting or whatever other prop is suitable for the needs of the post.
I did the odd photo in order to encourage her to exert herself a little as she used to be very shy, but she's taken to it exceptionally well and even asked if she can do a couple of short videos, and that's helped her in her ability to express herself, especially when it comes to public speaking at school.
I'm happy with the posts and see no issues.

The other side of the coin is parents that post 'sexy' pictures of kids with deluded hopes of a modelling career and a lot of money, but you can't stop idiocy by avoiding posting perfectly normal pictures of your own.

 

[Steel Icarus]

Except NOBODY is telling you that. Literally NO ONE.

Apart from SpookyFrank in post 3. If he's NOT telling me that, I'd be interested to hear further clarification as it's possible I've completely misunderstood.

 

[SpookyFrank]

Apart from SpookyFrank in post 3. If he's NOT telling me that, I'd be interested to hear further clarification as it's possible I've completely misunderstood.

No, I am telling you that.

 

[Steel Icarus]

I await my apology from ed, more in desperation than confidence

 

[maomao]

I think as long as you're proud of the photos and the kids are too young to be engaging with social media themselves it's not a problem. I don't know why it might be. There's no estranged family members it might upset and everyone's fully dressed and happy.

 

[FridgeMagnet]

I think the issue is about recognising that children grow up and will typically get to a point where they are suddenly much more self-conscious (and their peers more picky), which is perfectly natural, and things which were fine beforehand just aren’t now. Of course teenagers can be dramatic but it isn’t fair to ignore what they feel.

Not just restricted to social media either, or to teenagers - if I take a picture of a friend I don't put it up publicly without asking them first, because it's been taken in a private context, not as street photography.

I doubt there is a big issue with this in general tbh, most people are kind of sensible, though there are always going to be examples of where they aren’t.

 

[maomao]

I am of course a hypocrite because I moan my tits off if my mum sticks a photo of me on her Facebook without asking first.

 

[editor]

I await my apology from ed, more in desperation than confidence

I'm sorry I missed that one post, but I'm sure you'll now be quick to humbly apologise for your laughably backfiring 'only parents can talk about this, therefore you aren't entitled to an opinion' nonsense.

 

[maomao]

Only people who are someone's child are entitled to an opinion.

 

[Steel Icarus]

I'm sorry I missed that one post, but I'm sure you'll now be quick to humbly apologise for your laughably backfiring 'only parents can talk about this, therefore you aren't entitled to an opinion' nonsense.

I apologise.
Disagree with "laughably backfiring", though

 

[Shechemite]

It’s part of the discussion though isn’t it?

To what extent (if any) do parents have ‘rights’ with regard to ‘their’ children?

Can those of us without children understand the realities of parenting?

This topic will always elicit questions like this.

 

[Treacle Toes]

Tbh this is a ridiculous thread with a daft premise. You don't want to post pics if your kids or yourself, don't. But fuck if you can tell me whether I can put photos of my kids where I like. You silly fucking twats.

You seriously need to calm the fuck down

It wouldn't matter if ever other person on this thread disagreed with you, parent and/or non-parent...you'd still do what the fuck you wanted anyway. Flaming nora

 

[editor]

It’s part of the discussion though isn’t it?

To what extent (if any) do parents have ‘rights’ with regard to ‘their’ children?

Can those of us without children understand the realities of parenting?

This topic will always elicit questions like this.

Given that we've all had parents, I'd hazard a guess and say it's perfectly possible for someone without kids to come up with an empathetic, reasonable and well argued point of view, just as it's equally possible that a parent can come up with a fucking stupid argument.

 

[kalidarkone]

I have often wondered about this issue -I haven't had to deal with it as my son is 25. I think I would continue to keep an physical (as opose to virtual) photo album and keep copies online for the kids so they can do what they want with them. I'll keep this in mind in case I have grandchildren.

 

[Shechemite]

Given that we've all had parents, I'd hazard a guess and say it's perfectly possible for someone without kids to come up with an empathetic, reasonable and well argued point of view, just as it's equally possible that a parent can come up with a fucking stupid argument.

Yeah I agree. But this issue will, rightly or wrongly, come up in a conversation about parenting.

 

[Treacle Toes]

Parents who think that only they have the right to an opinion to how children are treated and socialised don't keep them at home and out of touch with the rest of the world, all of us in it and everything in it do they? How is that a fair relationship?