existentialist
Tired and unemotional
I think you're making my point for me. If I saw someone speaking, and was moved to make some kind of comment on how they were doing, I might well use a word like "articulate", whatever colour their skin happened to be. I don't think we need a list. What we need is to stop looking so damn hard for Clues that someone is being somehow unconsciously racist/sexist/whateverist, and like, y'know, maybe, ask, or engage and find out for fact. I think the kind of posturing that is behind these attitudes does a huge amount to polarise the debate into positions where someone is suddenly "in the know" of the arcane lexicon of coded discriminatory behaviour, and - as a handful of posters on Urban are prone to do - then use that "knowledge" to denigrate the motives of people and play some kind of holier-than-thou game with it.Why on earth would anyone dig around your words looking for dubious motives?? There's no agreed list of words that can be forwarded to you - you just need to either engage with the general conversation here and elsewhere on this subject and similar (where these themes very quickly become obvious, trust me) or be gracious when it is made clear to you that there are things you might not fully understand. I don't understand why any white person would want to confront a woman of colour on this subject in such a petulant way - do you not think that there is enough hurt around this subject?
edit - actually you should always be gracious in this context, however well read.
Anyway, this is well off-topic, and I can feel myself becoming irritated with the whole nonsense again, so I'm going to do what I said before, and continue not to give a fuck about what strangers who know nothing about me might choose to infer from the very particular language I might choose to use.