Hi Frogwoman.
I understand what you are saying, and I agree with much of it. But I can't agree that it is just a question of how ‘the individual’ sees his religion, or politics or identity. It is often a question of how the broader community – or even just the radical elements of that community – see it.
I gave a personal example earlier. My ex was Iranian. She was guilty of four offences: as an apostate, an atheist, having relations outside marriage, and having relations with a non-Muslim man. All bear the death penalty in Islam. If we had gone to the Muslim world, the state would have pursued those offences. If not the state, her own family would have killed her. If her family refused, the people in the street would have done it. If the neighbours had not, some militants would.
I mentioned before that we decided not to travel in the Islamic World. But we felt safe here.
Twenty five years on, England is changing. Would we be safe if we lived together in, eg Bradford?
Does that matter?
In future, do you think it will become easier or more dangerous to move there?
Of course there is a solution. If we were still together, she could return to Islam, I could convert to Islam, and we could get married. Then we would be safe anywhere. Is that the solution?